July 13, 2010
A trip to the Hardee Livestock Market
Since our summer Mondays are limited in number and the cattle auction in Wauchula is held on Mondays Cindi and I decided to take our herd down there for a little field trip. They dusted off their boots - we wanted to fit in - and headed down to Wauchula to watch the cattle sale and have some lunch. When we arrived we were surprised to find a virtual petting zoo outside the market. Well, there were just goats, but they were very friendly and the kids loved the kids.
Once inside the auction the girls were mesmerized by the whole process of running the cows in, the sale taking place, and the next cows run inside in a continuous cycle. Benjamin sat for a few minutes taking it all in before he decided he needed a closer look. He scooted down to the end of the row, looked back at me a bit coyly, and eased down to the next row. Before I knew it he raised his hand and squealed. I'm not sure, but I think we may have bought a cow. She was one handsome bovine, but we left before they could put our name on her.
The cattle market has a cafe on site and many farmers and cattlemen, regardless of whether or not they are selling/buying anything at the auction, will stop by for an old-fashioned grilled hamburger. The regulars are easy to spot, and the limited dining space is almost always crowded. Fortunately we arrived a little after the lunch crowd had cleared out so we had the place to ourselves for a while. This is especially good considering that Benjamin is still learning that I mean what I say and that I am largely unaffected by his tantrums. This can be unfortunate for anyone else present, though. He bellied-up to the bar for his hamburger, right along with the girls, but it didn't last. He was too short to sit up there and reach his food and without a seatbelt and helmet I couldn't let him stay there anyway. Man, did he kick up a ruckus when I made him sit at the table with Aunt Cindi and me! Food soon won out though, and he decided to stop fighting me and eat. I should mention that he's a bit hardheaded. He was far more interested in his fries than in the hamburger, even though they were much too hot to eat. We kept trying to get him to eat the hamburger first, but he only wanted the fries. He'd take a bite and whine and whimper, saying, "hot, hot" and blow a little. Then he'd go back for more. Some of us just have to learn patience the hard way.
On our way out we stopped by the goat pen once again for another round of petting and nibbling. It was a great outing and except for lunch, a freebie. The girls are begging to go back next week and I know my little cowboy would love it, too. Heck, we just might.
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Benjamin's Room
July 2, 2010
Giddy-up, Cowboy!
My camera and my computer have had a little tiff and I haven't been able to upload pictures for several weeks except from my phone. I finally had some quiet-mama time and did some trouble-shooting. I even bought a new cable, but that wasn't the problem. Still, in a round-a-bout way I have finally been able to upload some photos.
I think I may have mentioned this before, but while we were in China for Benjamin I had some great friends makeover Benjamin's room. I couldn't bring myself to "give Minqi the boot" while I cowboy'd up a princess-themed space. So when we left for China it was in my mind that I had some painting to do when we got home. Fortunately Cindi, Cindy, Jennifer, and Katie had other plans. We'll be forever grateful, me especially, since I hate to paint. And thanks to Clayton for helping create the awesome saddle stool seat. Benjamin loves it! If anyone needs a room redone let me know. I'll put you in touch with my interior designers. Love you guys!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*I want to hire them pronto! How amazing! I am so jealous (I hope it doesn't count as a sin if you call it by another name.) They did a wonderful job and we can't wait to see it...and Benjamin...in person. Maybe he can spark David's interest in another boy :-)
Posted by: Teresa on July 3, 2010 at 08:08 A.M.
Giddy-up, Cowboy!
My camera and my computer have had a little tiff and I haven't been able to upload pictures for several weeks except from my phone. I finally had some quiet-mama time and did some trouble-shooting. I even bought a new cable, but that wasn't the problem. Still, in a round-a-bout way I have finally been able to upload some photos.
I think I may have mentioned this before, but while we were in China for Benjamin I had some great friends makeover Benjamin's room. I couldn't bring myself to "give Minqi the boot" while I cowboy'd up a princess-themed space. So when we left for China it was in my mind that I had some painting to do when we got home. Fortunately Cindi, Cindy, Jennifer, and Katie had other plans. We'll be forever grateful, me especially, since I hate to paint. And thanks to Clayton for helping create the awesome saddle stool seat. Benjamin loves it! If anyone needs a room redone let me know. I'll put you in touch with my interior designers. Love you guys!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*I want to hire them pronto! How amazing! I am so jealous (I hope it doesn't count as a sin if you call it by another name.) They did a wonderful job and we can't wait to see it...and Benjamin...in person. Maybe he can spark David's interest in another boy :-)
Posted by: Teresa on July 3, 2010 at 08:08 A.M.
STRIKE THREE!
June 22, 2010
And I'm outta here
Call it adventures in parenting.
Call it "one of those days."
Call it anything you like, because I don't have a name for it.
It started this morning while I was on the phone fighting with the insurance company about adding Benjamin to our coverage. I faxed all necessary documents to them weeks ago, just days after returning from China. For some reason they received Dale's signed letter outlining the details of our adoption, but they CLAIM (nice little insurance lingo I've picked up in the past few weeks) that they didn't receive, in the same fax, our Adoption Certificate. This wouldn't be that big of a deal, since Watson Clinic will take our word for it and refile. But Benjamin has an appointment tomorrow at All-Children's with the orthopedic specialist and they won't just refile. They require payment up front if coverage cannot be verified.
Enter "Strike One"
So just imagine my state of mind, on said telephone with the Blue Cross nazi, when I hear Olivia yell, "No sir! Mom! That's BAD! Mom! You're in big trouble young man!" I made my phone exit as quickly as possible and went down the hall to find Benjamin, as well as the surrounding carpet, wall, and mirror covered in brown marker. No. It really was quite comical. I didn't even get mad. I just went to cleaning him up as quickly as possible. Thank the Lord for baby wipes. I think they have the same chemical composition as 409, Mr. Clean, Clorox, and mama spit all rolled into one. You can probably wipe three-week-old love-bug residue from the grill of your car with them with hardly an ounce of elbow grease. Meanwhile, I was praying I could get my little brown baby clean again. I don't want the doctor to be distracted by the track lines up and down his body and not be able to focus on the real issue at hand.
Lessons to learn:
Baby Wipes remove ink from baby skin.
Oxy Clean Carpet Spray removes ink from carpet.
Everyone's happy.
Enter "Strike Two"
Benjamin was down for his nap. I'm was doing laundry, cleaning up from lunch, yada yada yada when the girls scurried into the bathroom. They were giggling and cuttin' up to beat the band and I was afraid they were going to wake up the marker marvel and I couldn't have that so I opened the bathroom door to quiet them just in time to see Olivia, the amazing monkey girl, hop down from the sink. "The sink?" you ask. Yes, I, too, made the mistake of asking her what she was doing up there and then to my unbelieving ears she informed me that she and Abigail had to "go" at the same time and Abigail beat her to the potty. When she told Abigail she really really had to "go" she said Abigail told her to "go" in the sink. Okay, ladies. I didn't just fall off the turnip truck yesterday. We all know that if you really have to "go" that bad you can't climb up the back of the toilet and onto a SINK without peeing in your pants,let alone the SINK! Yeah. I'm still reeling from that one. too. I'm not sure what emotion I felt at that time. It's not exactly anger, not exactly exasperation, not exactly confounding confusion. I've never really experienced it before, so I'm not sure what to call it. If you ask Olivia she'll tell you it's a spanking.
Enter "Strike Three"
I turn to Abigail, with that undefined expression firmly stuck on my face and ask her if she told Olivia to do that, ready to scold her and tell her to never NEVER tell Olivia to do ANYTHING that she shouldn't do, even in jest, because she just might do it. And that would have been the end of it. But my sweet, innocent, dependable, never-gets-in-trouble angel-child LIED and said, "No, Mama." My mama-lie-dector went off. This would have probably earned time-out and a lecture had I not caught her in a little lie just yesterday. So where did I go wrong? Is this just a stage, or am I a total failure as a mother? That emotion that I described above...triple it! I still don't know what to call it, but if you ask Abigail she'll tell you it's Pink Grapefruit foam soap.
So what's a mom to do? After shooing those two peein' lyin' renegades to bed for a nap they don't usually have to take, disinfected the bathroom, and tackled the last evidence of the brown marker, I called Dale and explained to him that we needed a board meeting, aka a date night.
Enter Emma, angel of light and mercy. (Home run!) We left our three cherubs in her capable hands and enjoyed a nice, quiet dinner and went to a free movie I had coupons for. So after a relaxing evening with the chairman of the board and no babies to wipe, bottoms to spank, or mouths to wash out with soap I am home, the queen of my castle and ready to face anything again tomorrow. The Home Team wins!
Disclaimer: For prosperity's sake there are no pictures to document these events. It's enough that these three images are forever singed into my brain. I'll pull them up years from now and laugh.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Good Heavens! Are they trying to kill you? The good news is that I had no idea that baby wipes were that useful. You helped me to recognize a power-source to be unleashed in the event of such a disaster in my home. You do good work, soldier. Way to re-establish control and spark a romance with the Chairman of the Board. I am in awe of your power.
Posted by: Teresa on June 23, 2010 at 03:41 A.M.
*Sorry you had such a rough day! Sounds like you handled it very well though! Hope all is going well at the doctor's. Have a better day today!
Keturah
Posted by: Keturah on June 23, 2010 at 05:49 A.M.
*I know Cindi is out of town, so feel free to call me if you have the Snickers/Diet Coke urge - I'll be happy to stand in!!!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 23, 2010 at 01:22 P.M.
*i am rolling on the floor. it is so comforting to know i am not the only one out there that has such days :) kids get more creative w/ age. and the thing that makes it harder when they are older is that they also get sneakier and quieter in their mischief. the fun has only begun.
dillon made himself a zebra once w/ a sharpie. that didn't wash off so well, but i have since learned that fingernail polish remover is a wonderful thing :) like baby wipes, it cleans LOTS of things - sometimes too well, but hey, the marker is off (and maybe some paint too).
hoping your days are going better and benjamin's dr. appt. went well :)
Posted by: Shelle M. on June 24, 2010 at 02:23 P.M.
*I cannot believe my Abigail! You should write a book about your adventures. FYI-Olivia isn't the only one who has used a sink. ???? I will never tell who else has.
Posted by: Chris Lynch on June 25, 2010 at 06:52 P.M.
*Hi There:)
Was browsing sites on YB.net and came across yours. I live about 10 minutes from you, in Winter Haven...and we just came home from China with our daughter in late April!
I'd love to touch base with you sometime and compare notes, lol!
Amy
www.journeytoourprincess.blogspot.com
Posted by: Amy Howard on June 26, 2010 at 12:40 A.M.
*btdt with bcbs. I laugh when their Ads come on claiming how "easy" they are to deal with. NOT! So glad we don't have them any longer.
Love your adventures in Parenting. Helps to know that my life is "normal" as everyone elses. :-)
Posted by: Melanie D on June 27, 2010 at 04:15 P.M.
And I'm outta here
Call it adventures in parenting.
Call it "one of those days."
Call it anything you like, because I don't have a name for it.
It started this morning while I was on the phone fighting with the insurance company about adding Benjamin to our coverage. I faxed all necessary documents to them weeks ago, just days after returning from China. For some reason they received Dale's signed letter outlining the details of our adoption, but they CLAIM (nice little insurance lingo I've picked up in the past few weeks) that they didn't receive, in the same fax, our Adoption Certificate. This wouldn't be that big of a deal, since Watson Clinic will take our word for it and refile. But Benjamin has an appointment tomorrow at All-Children's with the orthopedic specialist and they won't just refile. They require payment up front if coverage cannot be verified.
Enter "Strike One"
So just imagine my state of mind, on said telephone with the Blue Cross nazi, when I hear Olivia yell, "No sir! Mom! That's BAD! Mom! You're in big trouble young man!" I made my phone exit as quickly as possible and went down the hall to find Benjamin, as well as the surrounding carpet, wall, and mirror covered in brown marker. No. It really was quite comical. I didn't even get mad. I just went to cleaning him up as quickly as possible. Thank the Lord for baby wipes. I think they have the same chemical composition as 409, Mr. Clean, Clorox, and mama spit all rolled into one. You can probably wipe three-week-old love-bug residue from the grill of your car with them with hardly an ounce of elbow grease. Meanwhile, I was praying I could get my little brown baby clean again. I don't want the doctor to be distracted by the track lines up and down his body and not be able to focus on the real issue at hand.
Lessons to learn:
Baby Wipes remove ink from baby skin.
Oxy Clean Carpet Spray removes ink from carpet.
Everyone's happy.
Enter "Strike Two"
Benjamin was down for his nap. I'm was doing laundry, cleaning up from lunch, yada yada yada when the girls scurried into the bathroom. They were giggling and cuttin' up to beat the band and I was afraid they were going to wake up the marker marvel and I couldn't have that so I opened the bathroom door to quiet them just in time to see Olivia, the amazing monkey girl, hop down from the sink. "The sink?" you ask. Yes, I, too, made the mistake of asking her what she was doing up there and then to my unbelieving ears she informed me that she and Abigail had to "go" at the same time and Abigail beat her to the potty. When she told Abigail she really really had to "go" she said Abigail told her to "go" in the sink. Okay, ladies. I didn't just fall off the turnip truck yesterday. We all know that if you really have to "go" that bad you can't climb up the back of the toilet and onto a SINK without peeing in your pants,let alone the SINK! Yeah. I'm still reeling from that one. too. I'm not sure what emotion I felt at that time. It's not exactly anger, not exactly exasperation, not exactly confounding confusion. I've never really experienced it before, so I'm not sure what to call it. If you ask Olivia she'll tell you it's a spanking.
Enter "Strike Three"
I turn to Abigail, with that undefined expression firmly stuck on my face and ask her if she told Olivia to do that, ready to scold her and tell her to never NEVER tell Olivia to do ANYTHING that she shouldn't do, even in jest, because she just might do it. And that would have been the end of it. But my sweet, innocent, dependable, never-gets-in-trouble angel-child LIED and said, "No, Mama." My mama-lie-dector went off. This would have probably earned time-out and a lecture had I not caught her in a little lie just yesterday. So where did I go wrong? Is this just a stage, or am I a total failure as a mother? That emotion that I described above...triple it! I still don't know what to call it, but if you ask Abigail she'll tell you it's Pink Grapefruit foam soap.
So what's a mom to do? After shooing those two peein' lyin' renegades to bed for a nap they don't usually have to take, disinfected the bathroom, and tackled the last evidence of the brown marker, I called Dale and explained to him that we needed a board meeting, aka a date night.
Enter Emma, angel of light and mercy. (Home run!) We left our three cherubs in her capable hands and enjoyed a nice, quiet dinner and went to a free movie I had coupons for. So after a relaxing evening with the chairman of the board and no babies to wipe, bottoms to spank, or mouths to wash out with soap I am home, the queen of my castle and ready to face anything again tomorrow. The Home Team wins!
Disclaimer: For prosperity's sake there are no pictures to document these events. It's enough that these three images are forever singed into my brain. I'll pull them up years from now and laugh.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Good Heavens! Are they trying to kill you? The good news is that I had no idea that baby wipes were that useful. You helped me to recognize a power-source to be unleashed in the event of such a disaster in my home. You do good work, soldier. Way to re-establish control and spark a romance with the Chairman of the Board. I am in awe of your power.
Posted by: Teresa on June 23, 2010 at 03:41 A.M.
*Sorry you had such a rough day! Sounds like you handled it very well though! Hope all is going well at the doctor's. Have a better day today!
Keturah
Posted by: Keturah on June 23, 2010 at 05:49 A.M.
*I know Cindi is out of town, so feel free to call me if you have the Snickers/Diet Coke urge - I'll be happy to stand in!!!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 23, 2010 at 01:22 P.M.
*i am rolling on the floor. it is so comforting to know i am not the only one out there that has such days :) kids get more creative w/ age. and the thing that makes it harder when they are older is that they also get sneakier and quieter in their mischief. the fun has only begun.
dillon made himself a zebra once w/ a sharpie. that didn't wash off so well, but i have since learned that fingernail polish remover is a wonderful thing :) like baby wipes, it cleans LOTS of things - sometimes too well, but hey, the marker is off (and maybe some paint too).
hoping your days are going better and benjamin's dr. appt. went well :)
Posted by: Shelle M. on June 24, 2010 at 02:23 P.M.
*I cannot believe my Abigail! You should write a book about your adventures. FYI-Olivia isn't the only one who has used a sink. ???? I will never tell who else has.
Posted by: Chris Lynch on June 25, 2010 at 06:52 P.M.
*Hi There:)
Was browsing sites on YB.net and came across yours. I live about 10 minutes from you, in Winter Haven...and we just came home from China with our daughter in late April!
I'd love to touch base with you sometime and compare notes, lol!
Amy
www.journeytoourprincess.blogspot.com
Posted by: Amy Howard on June 26, 2010 at 12:40 A.M.
*btdt with bcbs. I laugh when their Ads come on claiming how "easy" they are to deal with. NOT! So glad we don't have them any longer.
Love your adventures in Parenting. Helps to know that my life is "normal" as everyone elses. :-)
Posted by: Melanie D on June 27, 2010 at 04:15 P.M.
The "Sand Man" Cometh!
June 20, 2010
Olivia's 6th birthday was this past Friday and she asked to celebrate by going to the beach. Unfortunately, Dale had to work, but I decided I could manage so we headed to Coquina Beach in Bradenton bright, though not as early as I had hoped, Friday morning.
Just as I expected, Benjamin was thrilled with the sand and the water. The waves didn't intimidate him at all, and neither did the undertow. He is simply amazing. When we left I had geared myself up for a day of chasing after our little guy, but he surprised me by being content to stay with us, whether we were in the sand or the surf. I thought that he would get enough of being knocked under water by the waves after a few times, but instead he learned how to take each crash without losing his footing after a while.
The waves and the temperature were pretty mild, the perfect conditions for Benjamin to first experience the ocean. So much so that we went back on Saturday, this time with Dale. (We have to take advantage of the beach while the only oil on it is the suntan variety). We took with us a box of Nutter Butter cookies and a bag of cheetohs, to share or not to share with the seagulls. I never share with the seagulls until we're ready to leave since they won't leave you alone once they get a taste of the goods. However, since Benjamin feels a balanced diet is a cookie (or cheetoh) in each hand and cannot always hold on to them, he shared a cheetoh with the flock. I thought they'd never leave us alone after that. He has a better grip when it comes to Nutter Butters, though. With a cookie grasped in his sandy paw he waded out into the water to catch up with Abigail and Olivia and in his rush a wave knocked him under. He came right back up with the cookie still in his hand and went right back to eating it. The waves may cause him to lose his balance, but never his food. :o)
On our first day Benjamin and his beach bunny sisters fell asleep within five minutes of leaving the beach behind. I thought he'd fall asleep on our second day, too, since it was much later when we left, but no. He sang and squealed all the way home, much to my chagrin. My boy's got a set of pipes!
(My camera cable died, so until I can find a new one the pics are from my phone. Hence the poor quality, but at least you can get the idea).
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Each time I see your kids, I think that they cannot get any cuter. And the next time I see them, they prove me wrong. God bless the boy for holding onto his Nutter Butter. He has his priorities straight!
Posted by: Teresa on June 20, 2010 at 05:41 P.M.
Olivia's 6th birthday was this past Friday and she asked to celebrate by going to the beach. Unfortunately, Dale had to work, but I decided I could manage so we headed to Coquina Beach in Bradenton bright, though not as early as I had hoped, Friday morning.
Just as I expected, Benjamin was thrilled with the sand and the water. The waves didn't intimidate him at all, and neither did the undertow. He is simply amazing. When we left I had geared myself up for a day of chasing after our little guy, but he surprised me by being content to stay with us, whether we were in the sand or the surf. I thought that he would get enough of being knocked under water by the waves after a few times, but instead he learned how to take each crash without losing his footing after a while.
The waves and the temperature were pretty mild, the perfect conditions for Benjamin to first experience the ocean. So much so that we went back on Saturday, this time with Dale. (We have to take advantage of the beach while the only oil on it is the suntan variety). We took with us a box of Nutter Butter cookies and a bag of cheetohs, to share or not to share with the seagulls. I never share with the seagulls until we're ready to leave since they won't leave you alone once they get a taste of the goods. However, since Benjamin feels a balanced diet is a cookie (or cheetoh) in each hand and cannot always hold on to them, he shared a cheetoh with the flock. I thought they'd never leave us alone after that. He has a better grip when it comes to Nutter Butters, though. With a cookie grasped in his sandy paw he waded out into the water to catch up with Abigail and Olivia and in his rush a wave knocked him under. He came right back up with the cookie still in his hand and went right back to eating it. The waves may cause him to lose his balance, but never his food. :o)
On our first day Benjamin and his beach bunny sisters fell asleep within five minutes of leaving the beach behind. I thought he'd fall asleep on our second day, too, since it was much later when we left, but no. He sang and squealed all the way home, much to my chagrin. My boy's got a set of pipes!
(My camera cable died, so until I can find a new one the pics are from my phone. Hence the poor quality, but at least you can get the idea).
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Each time I see your kids, I think that they cannot get any cuter. And the next time I see them, they prove me wrong. God bless the boy for holding onto his Nutter Butter. He has his priorities straight!
Posted by: Teresa on June 20, 2010 at 05:41 P.M.
Food and Water
June 11, 2010
Two things Benjamin loves
Just don't forget the ketchup. I think he'd eat chopped liver if you covered it with ketchup first.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
I feel that way about things dipped in funnel cake batter and deep fried. Benjamin and I are going to be eating buddies. I have a feeling he just might like my chocolate chip cookies...
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:43 P.M.
Two things Benjamin loves
Just don't forget the ketchup. I think he'd eat chopped liver if you covered it with ketchup first.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
I feel that way about things dipped in funnel cake batter and deep fried. Benjamin and I are going to be eating buddies. I have a feeling he just might like my chocolate chip cookies...
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:43 P.M.
Quality Time
June 11, 2010
Now Dale has a partner in crime. I'm going to go ahead and take as much credit for that as I can since it was really my idea initially to accept a referral for our little guy . We thought it was going to be a girl, but God had other plans. Benjamin is the best birthday present I ever received. I love seeing these two together. Dale is a great dad!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
And just when I thought Dale Croy couldn't get any more handsome, you post these photos. Those two together are pin-up quality!
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:37 P.M.
Now Dale has a partner in crime. I'm going to go ahead and take as much credit for that as I can since it was really my idea initially to accept a referral for our little guy . We thought it was going to be a girl, but God had other plans. Benjamin is the best birthday present I ever received. I love seeing these two together. Dale is a great dad!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
And just when I thought Dale Croy couldn't get any more handsome, you post these photos. Those two together are pin-up quality!
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:37 P.M.
More First Day Photos
June 11, 2010
I love several of these because they show the compassionate side of Olivia and reassure me that she will love him again...some day. Actually she's added that request to her bedtime prayers. She doesn't like feeling jealous of him and I let her know that HE KNOWS how she feels and that's why he's a little mean to her. She's trying to make amends and his behavior toward her is beginning to improve.
(Sigh) It's hard to be the baby for five years and then suddenly NOT.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Olivia will find her way with Benjamin. She is so loving and yet not ready to give up the baby throne. I have faith in her more generous side. She will show us all up and be his favorite person in the world. After all, it takes one to know one and I think both of them are one!
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:40 P.M.
*LOVE all the pics you have posted! Both girls and Benjamin look adorable. Olivia is hardly even a slight shade of jade in these, and I am certain she will recover from that bad case of the greenies! Or we can call her Olive! Shamrock, celadon, Kelly green - all these have a nice ring - we could see which she prefers! Who are we kidding - I'm still jealous of my younger siblings on occasion! And we know how well adjusted I am!!!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 13, 2010 at 04:27 A.M.
I love several of these because they show the compassionate side of Olivia and reassure me that she will love him again...some day. Actually she's added that request to her bedtime prayers. She doesn't like feeling jealous of him and I let her know that HE KNOWS how she feels and that's why he's a little mean to her. She's trying to make amends and his behavior toward her is beginning to improve.
(Sigh) It's hard to be the baby for five years and then suddenly NOT.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Olivia will find her way with Benjamin. She is so loving and yet not ready to give up the baby throne. I have faith in her more generous side. She will show us all up and be his favorite person in the world. After all, it takes one to know one and I think both of them are one!
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:40 P.M.
*LOVE all the pics you have posted! Both girls and Benjamin look adorable. Olivia is hardly even a slight shade of jade in these, and I am certain she will recover from that bad case of the greenies! Or we can call her Olive! Shamrock, celadon, Kelly green - all these have a nice ring - we could see which she prefers! Who are we kidding - I'm still jealous of my younger siblings on occasion! And we know how well adjusted I am!!!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 13, 2010 at 04:27 A.M.
Home, Sweet Home
June 11, 2010
We've been home from China for nearly two weeks now and I believe we're over our jet lag and Benjamin is settling in rather well. He is truly amazing. Considering his age I expected it to be more difficult, therefore, I'm happy to say that I was wrong. I believe he has an exceptional personality and inner strength that will enable him to do great things.
I've had a little time now to browse through my photos taken in China and I found some really fun ones. While in China I posted quick pics from the expensive business center or from the free-internet in the shops and those were more difficult because many of the commands were in Chinese and I didn't want to bother the shopkeepers to help me. Their generosity in allowing us to use their Internet access was enough. Plus I didn't want to take too much time looking through pictures to pick the best ones to post because Dale was flying solo every minute that I was away. I'll be adding a few posts with just photos.
I sent an email with some photos yesterday to the director of Angel House and was pleasantly surprised to see that the photos were posted on the Angel House blog this morning. Several care givers have responded to the message I sent and the photos shared. It is so obvious the care givers at Angel House are amazing people and we hope to meet them some day.
I posted before about Benjamin bringing several bags of belongings with him when he arrived. This is NOT the norm. Included in these items was two photo albums with anecdotes and words of love and kindness. I cried reading them and being able to see so much of his early life. These will be so precious to him. I believe that at Angel House Benjamin was provided with a true sense of family. Inside one of the albums was a letter from Ms. Eva Deng which included her email address and a request to keep in touch so she would know how Benjamin is doing. I was happy to be able to give her a good report of him and to confirm what she believed: that he is the most handsome, most intelligent, most mischievous little boy ever!
I've included some of the early photos I discovered on the Angel House blog. These were such a joy to find!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*We are so jealous of these early photos. We looked at this and David made me immediately contact Bekah's orphanage to request copies of her baby photos. You never know... What a gorgeous head of hair on that boy. I can't wait to run my fingers through it:-)
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:42 P.M.
*I could just eat him up! He is adorable and I can't wait to see him again. I need an unrequested Benjamin hug!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 13, 2010 at 04:21 A.M.
*I like this one http://static6.photo.sina.com.cn/middle/50187c2at7a9e120ee305&690
Posted by: Jacob on June 15, 2010 at 04:15 A.M.
We've been home from China for nearly two weeks now and I believe we're over our jet lag and Benjamin is settling in rather well. He is truly amazing. Considering his age I expected it to be more difficult, therefore, I'm happy to say that I was wrong. I believe he has an exceptional personality and inner strength that will enable him to do great things.
I've had a little time now to browse through my photos taken in China and I found some really fun ones. While in China I posted quick pics from the expensive business center or from the free-internet in the shops and those were more difficult because many of the commands were in Chinese and I didn't want to bother the shopkeepers to help me. Their generosity in allowing us to use their Internet access was enough. Plus I didn't want to take too much time looking through pictures to pick the best ones to post because Dale was flying solo every minute that I was away. I'll be adding a few posts with just photos.
I sent an email with some photos yesterday to the director of Angel House and was pleasantly surprised to see that the photos were posted on the Angel House blog this morning. Several care givers have responded to the message I sent and the photos shared. It is so obvious the care givers at Angel House are amazing people and we hope to meet them some day.
I posted before about Benjamin bringing several bags of belongings with him when he arrived. This is NOT the norm. Included in these items was two photo albums with anecdotes and words of love and kindness. I cried reading them and being able to see so much of his early life. These will be so precious to him. I believe that at Angel House Benjamin was provided with a true sense of family. Inside one of the albums was a letter from Ms. Eva Deng which included her email address and a request to keep in touch so she would know how Benjamin is doing. I was happy to be able to give her a good report of him and to confirm what she believed: that he is the most handsome, most intelligent, most mischievous little boy ever!
I've included some of the early photos I discovered on the Angel House blog. These were such a joy to find!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*We are so jealous of these early photos. We looked at this and David made me immediately contact Bekah's orphanage to request copies of her baby photos. You never know... What a gorgeous head of hair on that boy. I can't wait to run my fingers through it:-)
Posted by: Teresa on June 11, 2010 at 01:42 P.M.
*I could just eat him up! He is adorable and I can't wait to see him again. I need an unrequested Benjamin hug!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 13, 2010 at 04:21 A.M.
*I like this one http://static6.photo.sina.com.cn/middle/50187c2at7a9e120ee305&690
Posted by: Jacob on June 15, 2010 at 04:15 A.M.
Touch Down!
May 30, 2010
A new US Citizen has arrived!
Sorry that we haven't been around the blog in a few days. Since we didn't take a laptop our access to the Internet has been limited at times.
Three and a half weeks after we left home, followed by a 12.5 hour flight that was preceded by a 2 hour departure delay after boarding, we landed in Chicago around 6:15 p.m. and Benjamin, our petite little linebacker became a citizen. We were pretty much exhausted and starving. (If I never see another cart of airplane food roll by my seat it will be too soon!) By the time we checked in our hotel, walked across the street to Gibsons for a wonderful steak dinner (interrupted only TWICE by little tykes needing a trip to the potty), returned and showered, the last thing I could possibly do was write an account of our adventures. Instead I crawled into the softest cottony cloud ever labeled a bed and slept for 5 1/2 wonderful hours.
Unlike me, Dale and our brood had slept for most of the flight but it was the two hour delay that was the hardest:
*Did you know there is space enough UNDER the seats on a plane for a two-year old to crawl? While I was disposing of a second dirty diaper and Dale was retrieving extra diapers from the overhead bin Benjamin escaped! Gone! Of course the dude behind us ratted him out pretty quickly once Benjamin crawled up in his lap.
*The loud noise a plane makes during flight is actually a lullaby and children will not sleep on a plane without it. None of them will. (Not one of the 15 infant/toddlers on your plane seated in your section will. They will scream and cry until the roar of the engines begins).
Thankfully we were staying at Embassy Suites so I was able to rest in the King-sized bed until 5:30 while Dale and the kids were in the other room on the pull out couch. (I love that man!) That's when the herd broke out and stampeded through my slumber. At least that's what I think woke me up. It could have been Dale beating himself up that did it. He hadn't slept a wink all night even though the kids crashed for about three hours. He was too busy fretting over the fact that he had left our camcorder on the shuttle bus from the airport. He tried tracking it down while I slept in ignorant bliss and I think he dreaded telling me about it. Even though he hadn't made a sound I could tell he was awake and worried about something and I just asked, "What is it?" He told me about the camera. I told him to forget about it. What can you do? Worry won't bring it back. The important thing is we're all together, safe and almost home. Let it go! Dale took a deep breath, his first in all the hours since he discovered his blunder. I'm just glad that he hadn't captured "the moment" on video or the rest of you would probably never see Dale ever again. :o)
Our short stop in Chicago was jut enough to get refreshed a feel human again before taking our final flight home. Uncle Bill, Aunt Deb, Elisabeth and her friend met us at the airport with flowers and gifts and hugs all around. They were such a welcome sight! They helped us gather our luggage and waited with us for Aunt Cindi. After just a few minutes were were loaded up and on our way to Cracker Barrel, a little tradition that began with Abigail. The only thing missing was Uncle Jim, Katie, and Dakota. But then, there wasn't enough room in the van anymore.
As we drove down I-4 it was evident that a big storm was blowing in so I suggested we continue on and stop at the Cracker Barrel in Lakeland. Cindi INSISTED we go ahead and stop at the Seffner one, that the storm would probably pass while we had dinner. I sent Dale and Cindi on in with the girls while I changed Benjamin's diaper. While digging through the suitcase for a clean pair of pants Cindy Kuhlman appeared out of no where and scooped Benjamin up. I'm thinking, "Alright! Cindy's here and probably brought Katie and Lauren. The girls will be thrilled to see each other." So we go on in the restaurant and I find a whole welcoming party: Katie and Lauren along with Minqi, Niki, Emily, Xavier, Nellie, and Summer! There we two beach buckets filled with goodies for the girls (Thanks Niki!) It was so good to see everyone and their true excitement to finally meet Benjamin. And now I knew why Cindi nearly panicked when I suggested bypassing the storm.
Good friends, good country food, good sweet tea! Ah, life is good!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
welcome home!!! :) thanks again for all you've written. i've thoroughly enjoyed the walk down memory lane while rejoicing in your journey to bring benjamin home. we couldn't be happier for you. boys add a new dimension to parenting :) you'll learn. blessings to all of you!
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 30, 2010 at 01:09 P.M.
*I can't get a purse under a plane seat but Benjamin can get himself under there? Life is about to get a lot more amusing at the Croy house. Sounds like a wonderful welcome with good friends and good food. Life doesn't get any better than that. Much love from the entire Haskin Clan!
Posted by: Teresa on May 31, 2010 at 06:47 P.M.
*Welcome home! Your trip was another great volume in your family's life! Praying for a quick adjustment to the time change!! Can't wait to see him loose at WDW!
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 31, 2010 at 07:00 P.M.
*Welcome Home!!! So glad ya'll have finally made it home safe and sound. Thanks for sharing so much of your journey with us; it's been a great blessing to follow along.
Posted by: Wendy Helms on June 1, 2010 at 09:29 A.M.
*It was wonderful to be part of Benjamin's homecoming - mostly because Olivia and Abigail were there! Can't wait to see all of you again.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 1, 2010 at 11:59 P.M.
*Welcome Home Croy Family! When you are settled in, we would love to meet Benjamin.
Posted by: Elisa Criden on June 2, 2010 at 09:18 A.M.
*Croy, table for FIVE!! As my brother-in-law so eloquently put it when they had their 3rd..."We've gone from man-to-man coverage to a zone defense." :)
SOOOO excited for you guys! I teared up as I read most of this (and while my mom read it to me with a quivering voice:) God is just so good... your family is such a perfect picture of that goodness and grace!!! Welcome Benjamin! You can start work on your southern drawl now!
Posted by: Sharon Rivers on June 3, 2010 at 05:38 P.M.
A new US Citizen has arrived!
Sorry that we haven't been around the blog in a few days. Since we didn't take a laptop our access to the Internet has been limited at times.
Three and a half weeks after we left home, followed by a 12.5 hour flight that was preceded by a 2 hour departure delay after boarding, we landed in Chicago around 6:15 p.m. and Benjamin, our petite little linebacker became a citizen. We were pretty much exhausted and starving. (If I never see another cart of airplane food roll by my seat it will be too soon!) By the time we checked in our hotel, walked across the street to Gibsons for a wonderful steak dinner (interrupted only TWICE by little tykes needing a trip to the potty), returned and showered, the last thing I could possibly do was write an account of our adventures. Instead I crawled into the softest cottony cloud ever labeled a bed and slept for 5 1/2 wonderful hours.
Unlike me, Dale and our brood had slept for most of the flight but it was the two hour delay that was the hardest:
*Did you know there is space enough UNDER the seats on a plane for a two-year old to crawl? While I was disposing of a second dirty diaper and Dale was retrieving extra diapers from the overhead bin Benjamin escaped! Gone! Of course the dude behind us ratted him out pretty quickly once Benjamin crawled up in his lap.
*The loud noise a plane makes during flight is actually a lullaby and children will not sleep on a plane without it. None of them will. (Not one of the 15 infant/toddlers on your plane seated in your section will. They will scream and cry until the roar of the engines begins).
Thankfully we were staying at Embassy Suites so I was able to rest in the King-sized bed until 5:30 while Dale and the kids were in the other room on the pull out couch. (I love that man!) That's when the herd broke out and stampeded through my slumber. At least that's what I think woke me up. It could have been Dale beating himself up that did it. He hadn't slept a wink all night even though the kids crashed for about three hours. He was too busy fretting over the fact that he had left our camcorder on the shuttle bus from the airport. He tried tracking it down while I slept in ignorant bliss and I think he dreaded telling me about it. Even though he hadn't made a sound I could tell he was awake and worried about something and I just asked, "What is it?" He told me about the camera. I told him to forget about it. What can you do? Worry won't bring it back. The important thing is we're all together, safe and almost home. Let it go! Dale took a deep breath, his first in all the hours since he discovered his blunder. I'm just glad that he hadn't captured "the moment" on video or the rest of you would probably never see Dale ever again. :o)
Our short stop in Chicago was jut enough to get refreshed a feel human again before taking our final flight home. Uncle Bill, Aunt Deb, Elisabeth and her friend met us at the airport with flowers and gifts and hugs all around. They were such a welcome sight! They helped us gather our luggage and waited with us for Aunt Cindi. After just a few minutes were were loaded up and on our way to Cracker Barrel, a little tradition that began with Abigail. The only thing missing was Uncle Jim, Katie, and Dakota. But then, there wasn't enough room in the van anymore.
As we drove down I-4 it was evident that a big storm was blowing in so I suggested we continue on and stop at the Cracker Barrel in Lakeland. Cindi INSISTED we go ahead and stop at the Seffner one, that the storm would probably pass while we had dinner. I sent Dale and Cindi on in with the girls while I changed Benjamin's diaper. While digging through the suitcase for a clean pair of pants Cindy Kuhlman appeared out of no where and scooped Benjamin up. I'm thinking, "Alright! Cindy's here and probably brought Katie and Lauren. The girls will be thrilled to see each other." So we go on in the restaurant and I find a whole welcoming party: Katie and Lauren along with Minqi, Niki, Emily, Xavier, Nellie, and Summer! There we two beach buckets filled with goodies for the girls (Thanks Niki!) It was so good to see everyone and their true excitement to finally meet Benjamin. And now I knew why Cindi nearly panicked when I suggested bypassing the storm.
Good friends, good country food, good sweet tea! Ah, life is good!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
welcome home!!! :) thanks again for all you've written. i've thoroughly enjoyed the walk down memory lane while rejoicing in your journey to bring benjamin home. we couldn't be happier for you. boys add a new dimension to parenting :) you'll learn. blessings to all of you!
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 30, 2010 at 01:09 P.M.
*I can't get a purse under a plane seat but Benjamin can get himself under there? Life is about to get a lot more amusing at the Croy house. Sounds like a wonderful welcome with good friends and good food. Life doesn't get any better than that. Much love from the entire Haskin Clan!
Posted by: Teresa on May 31, 2010 at 06:47 P.M.
*Welcome home! Your trip was another great volume in your family's life! Praying for a quick adjustment to the time change!! Can't wait to see him loose at WDW!
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 31, 2010 at 07:00 P.M.
*Welcome Home!!! So glad ya'll have finally made it home safe and sound. Thanks for sharing so much of your journey with us; it's been a great blessing to follow along.
Posted by: Wendy Helms on June 1, 2010 at 09:29 A.M.
*It was wonderful to be part of Benjamin's homecoming - mostly because Olivia and Abigail were there! Can't wait to see all of you again.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on June 1, 2010 at 11:59 P.M.
*Welcome Home Croy Family! When you are settled in, we would love to meet Benjamin.
Posted by: Elisa Criden on June 2, 2010 at 09:18 A.M.
*Croy, table for FIVE!! As my brother-in-law so eloquently put it when they had their 3rd..."We've gone from man-to-man coverage to a zone defense." :)
SOOOO excited for you guys! I teared up as I read most of this (and while my mom read it to me with a quivering voice:) God is just so good... your family is such a perfect picture of that goodness and grace!!! Welcome Benjamin! You can start work on your southern drawl now!
Posted by: Sharon Rivers on June 3, 2010 at 05:38 P.M.
May 26, 2010
Benjamin is almost a citizen of the United States
We traveled today to the US Consulate in Guangzhou to raise our right hands and take our oath. we were congratulated by the officer and told that Benjamin will become a citizen of the United States as soon as he hits American soil. Just a few more days to go.
We were not allowed to take a camera or phone into the Consulate, as usual (bummer). Just once it would be great to document the occasion in pictures. The Consulate has been moved to a new building since our adoption of Olivia in 2005 and instead of walking 5 minutes down the street we hopped on a bus and rode 40 minutes across town. The ride was an EXPERIENCE in itself. The roads are incredible. Think of the Crosstown Expressway on steroids and you're almost there. For example, we were riding past highrise buildings and our bus was on the road level with the 7th-8th story of some of these buildings. And these skyscrapers were too many in number to count. Everything about China is simply amazing!
Benjamin loves to be independent. Riding on the escalators - he will not tolerate being carried without kicking a fit. He wants to walk it like his big sisters do. Fastening his seatbelt in the stroller - don't even think about doing it for him. Fortunately he's pretty quick about it. The noodles may be scorching hot, but don't worry. He can feed himself with a spoon or fork despite the heat. He just winces a little bit. Just be prepared to give him a bath afterwards, because it's not good unless you get a little bit (or a whole lot) on ya!
Today after our swearing in at the Consulate Dale took the girls back to the pool while Benjamin and I picked up laundry, diapers, etc. While they were dancing around stripping their clothes off to dress for the pool Benjamin got caught up in the moment and stripped his clothes off, too. He didn't know what all the excitement was about, but he didn't want to be left out. I promise to get him to the pool tomorrow. Dale reports that Abigail and Olivia are both swimming better than last summer, Abigail on her back, too, and Olivia swimming quite a distance to him from the edge. Swim lessons should be fun this summer. Hopefully there will be a class for Benjamin's age, too, since he has no fear of the water.
I've included a shot of Benjamin hiding behind the chair in our hotel room having his BM. You can't tell by the look on his face what he's up to, can you? He is just too funny! I think he was possibly potty trained before his surgery back in September since they had reported from Angel House that he was potty trained. And he seems to know what the bit potty is all about. He just doesn't do anything when we seat him on it. I'm thinking that once we get him home for the summer we'll be able to concentrate on getting out of the diapers. The disposable diapers here don't really go up to his size. The XL go up to 12 kg, but he needs the next size up to fit comfortably, and that size doesn't exist. Thankfully Angel House delivered him with a whole package of diapers that are larger and more absorbent. We're saving the last six of those for our flights home. The "Pampers" that we can buy here are not very absorbent and don't wick the wetness away from the skin so we're going through quite a few of them. Had we known Benjamin was still in diapers (or again in diapers since his surgery) we would have brought some from home.
Benjamin is more and more loving, though he's a bit rough about showing affection. He gets all wound up and before we know it he hits or pinches in the middle of a hug. He smacked me in the face really hard today with both hands. Whew! I was not expecting that. Nor was I expecting the really hard bite he gave me when pressing his face against my hand. I told him he hurt me and looking really sad at him. That's when he grabbed my hand again and I braced for another bite. Instead he kissed my finger when he had bitten me and patted my hand. That was my first kiss from him. Abigail claimed the first unsolicited hug. He is very loving toward her and she is gentle and patient with him. I'm very proud of my little girl. She is a wonder.
More posing with the statuary today. We saw several models out being photographed today and Olivia took note. She struck a pose for the tourist/photographer statue outside of Lucy's Cafe tonight on our way to dinner. Oh, and Dale was on TV here in Guangzhou. While Olivia and I were inside a shop Dale and Abigail were outside with Ben asleep in the stroller. A TV crew interviewed Dale and asked what he thought about all of the construction here on the island. He told Dale to watch GZTV tonight. We'll see.
Hope all is well at home. Several of you have asked when we are due to arrive. I don't have the flight number with me, but I've emailed it to Cindi, who is picking us up from the airport. I'll try to post the flight info tomorrow. Anyway, it's a United flight and we're due in from Chicago around 2:45 on SaturdaY.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Won't be long now till we can introduce Benjamin to the ways of the world in Polk County. Can't wait to meet him and see the girls.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 26, 2010 at 12:15 P.M.
*You will have to break him of the hitting and biting stuff because I need to kiss him and I don't want to risk life and limb to do it! I have always imagined Dale Croy on TV.. kind of like Miami Vice but with postal workers. As for your little ladies, they are living into everything I ever dreamed they could be. Benjamin is more blessed than he will ever know.
Posted by: Teresa on May 26, 2010 at 01:06 P.M.
*This is so interesting. I am so happy for you and your family. Carmen, you will have to write a book on all your experiences adopting and going to China. Have a safe journey home.
Posted by: Rita Balsano on May 26, 2010 at 02:23 P.M.
*Oh Carmen, what a funny little boy you have! Nope, couldn't tell at all what he was doing behind the chair ;-o Funny how our families mirror each other. Ava had 2 febrile seizures at 17 mths old. One in my arms while in the hospital while we were settling her in a room for testing after the first one. Thankfully they never returned. It's not the level of the fever, but how quickly it elevated. We can compare notes when you get home. I am going to try to make it to the airport for your arrival. If not, call me when you are up to visitors. Love love love your stories!
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 12:22 P.M.
Benjamin is almost a citizen of the United States
We traveled today to the US Consulate in Guangzhou to raise our right hands and take our oath. we were congratulated by the officer and told that Benjamin will become a citizen of the United States as soon as he hits American soil. Just a few more days to go.
We were not allowed to take a camera or phone into the Consulate, as usual (bummer). Just once it would be great to document the occasion in pictures. The Consulate has been moved to a new building since our adoption of Olivia in 2005 and instead of walking 5 minutes down the street we hopped on a bus and rode 40 minutes across town. The ride was an EXPERIENCE in itself. The roads are incredible. Think of the Crosstown Expressway on steroids and you're almost there. For example, we were riding past highrise buildings and our bus was on the road level with the 7th-8th story of some of these buildings. And these skyscrapers were too many in number to count. Everything about China is simply amazing!
Benjamin loves to be independent. Riding on the escalators - he will not tolerate being carried without kicking a fit. He wants to walk it like his big sisters do. Fastening his seatbelt in the stroller - don't even think about doing it for him. Fortunately he's pretty quick about it. The noodles may be scorching hot, but don't worry. He can feed himself with a spoon or fork despite the heat. He just winces a little bit. Just be prepared to give him a bath afterwards, because it's not good unless you get a little bit (or a whole lot) on ya!
Today after our swearing in at the Consulate Dale took the girls back to the pool while Benjamin and I picked up laundry, diapers, etc. While they were dancing around stripping their clothes off to dress for the pool Benjamin got caught up in the moment and stripped his clothes off, too. He didn't know what all the excitement was about, but he didn't want to be left out. I promise to get him to the pool tomorrow. Dale reports that Abigail and Olivia are both swimming better than last summer, Abigail on her back, too, and Olivia swimming quite a distance to him from the edge. Swim lessons should be fun this summer. Hopefully there will be a class for Benjamin's age, too, since he has no fear of the water.
I've included a shot of Benjamin hiding behind the chair in our hotel room having his BM. You can't tell by the look on his face what he's up to, can you? He is just too funny! I think he was possibly potty trained before his surgery back in September since they had reported from Angel House that he was potty trained. And he seems to know what the bit potty is all about. He just doesn't do anything when we seat him on it. I'm thinking that once we get him home for the summer we'll be able to concentrate on getting out of the diapers. The disposable diapers here don't really go up to his size. The XL go up to 12 kg, but he needs the next size up to fit comfortably, and that size doesn't exist. Thankfully Angel House delivered him with a whole package of diapers that are larger and more absorbent. We're saving the last six of those for our flights home. The "Pampers" that we can buy here are not very absorbent and don't wick the wetness away from the skin so we're going through quite a few of them. Had we known Benjamin was still in diapers (or again in diapers since his surgery) we would have brought some from home.
Benjamin is more and more loving, though he's a bit rough about showing affection. He gets all wound up and before we know it he hits or pinches in the middle of a hug. He smacked me in the face really hard today with both hands. Whew! I was not expecting that. Nor was I expecting the really hard bite he gave me when pressing his face against my hand. I told him he hurt me and looking really sad at him. That's when he grabbed my hand again and I braced for another bite. Instead he kissed my finger when he had bitten me and patted my hand. That was my first kiss from him. Abigail claimed the first unsolicited hug. He is very loving toward her and she is gentle and patient with him. I'm very proud of my little girl. She is a wonder.
More posing with the statuary today. We saw several models out being photographed today and Olivia took note. She struck a pose for the tourist/photographer statue outside of Lucy's Cafe tonight on our way to dinner. Oh, and Dale was on TV here in Guangzhou. While Olivia and I were inside a shop Dale and Abigail were outside with Ben asleep in the stroller. A TV crew interviewed Dale and asked what he thought about all of the construction here on the island. He told Dale to watch GZTV tonight. We'll see.
Hope all is well at home. Several of you have asked when we are due to arrive. I don't have the flight number with me, but I've emailed it to Cindi, who is picking us up from the airport. I'll try to post the flight info tomorrow. Anyway, it's a United flight and we're due in from Chicago around 2:45 on SaturdaY.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Won't be long now till we can introduce Benjamin to the ways of the world in Polk County. Can't wait to meet him and see the girls.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 26, 2010 at 12:15 P.M.
*You will have to break him of the hitting and biting stuff because I need to kiss him and I don't want to risk life and limb to do it! I have always imagined Dale Croy on TV.. kind of like Miami Vice but with postal workers. As for your little ladies, they are living into everything I ever dreamed they could be. Benjamin is more blessed than he will ever know.
Posted by: Teresa on May 26, 2010 at 01:06 P.M.
*This is so interesting. I am so happy for you and your family. Carmen, you will have to write a book on all your experiences adopting and going to China. Have a safe journey home.
Posted by: Rita Balsano on May 26, 2010 at 02:23 P.M.
*Oh Carmen, what a funny little boy you have! Nope, couldn't tell at all what he was doing behind the chair ;-o Funny how our families mirror each other. Ava had 2 febrile seizures at 17 mths old. One in my arms while in the hospital while we were settling her in a room for testing after the first one. Thankfully they never returned. It's not the level of the fever, but how quickly it elevated. We can compare notes when you get home. I am going to try to make it to the airport for your arrival. If not, call me when you are up to visitors. Love love love your stories!
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 12:22 P.M.
Love is a Chicken Nugget
May 25, 2010
Golden nuggets of wisdom and other tidbits from big sister Olivia
Each morning at breakfast I send Dale with the girls to the breakfast buffet to pick out what they want and to bring back something to appease Benjamin while I fix his plate and mine. Today while Dale headed back for juice for them I asked Olivia if Ben could have one of her chicken nuggets, which she grudgingly gave up. A few minutes later after Benjamin made a funny face, making Abigail and I laugh out loud I asked Abigail and Olivia if they love their little brother. Abigail said yes right away and smiled. I've never seen her laugh so much before Benjamin joined our family. He is truly funny and his laugh is contagious. Olivia was eating her breakfast and didn't say anything so I asked her again if she loves him. She rolled her eyes a bit and replied, "I gave him my chicken nugget, didn't I?" I forget sometimes, to Olivia, food is love. She loved him a little bit more at lunch time when she shared her sandwich and cookie without prompting and again at dinner when she offered half of her apple juice when Ben's didn't arrive right away. She's coming around, one meal at a time. :o)
Yesterday when we ate lunch at Subway we met an American man who is here on business, Mr. Alan Holder. He is here alone and missing his family, which includes an adopted Chinese daughter named Amanda. He and Olivia shared a long conversation while we ordered lunch and got everyone settled. He shared with her that he is lonely without his family here since his wife didn't want to travel. To that she said, "Well, at least you got some peace and quiet, don'tcha?" Mr. Holder died laughing.
This morning was our Consulate appointment. Jocelyn and Kathy from our agency went in our place with all of our visa documents and Benjamin's passport and physical information. I stayed in our room as instructed from 10:00 to 12:00 in case there was a problem and they needed to call. I sent Dale with the kids down to the play room. There was no need for all of us to be cooped up in the matchbox. (Remember, yesterday it was a shoebox? Well, that room continues to grow smaller and smaller every day). The call came from Kathy at 11:30 that all is well and we'll be receiving Ben's visa without a hitch. Yippee! Not that I expected any problems, but who ever does?
To celebrate this next hurdle being jumped Dale took the girls to the pool while Benjamin and I went out strolling and shopping. Now I believe I've inserted a few photos already of some of the brides and grooms we've spotted, but today we hit the jackpot. I finally stopped counting the happy couples after 7. At one time there was one on every corner of the intersection we were crossing. Shamien Island is quite the hotspot for wedding pictures, despite the construction going on. The gardens are still beautifully maintained and make for a great backdrop. At one point one of the brides was changing into a different gown. The groom, the photographer, and his assistant held up a portable changing room right there on the street and after a few minutes the bride tossed her gown over the top and emerged in a different dress. It was hysterical.
This afternoon we had the "red couch" photos, an adoptive family tradition where our adoption group meets to take family and group photos. The fun really begins when all the family pics are done and then all the babies are placed together on the red couch for a group shot. It's got to happen quickly or many of the babies will be crying before the first click. New moms are the worse for turning loose and jumping back fast enough for a good photo. Personally, I think the whole affair is quite hysterical, and apparently so did Benjamin. While half the babies were looking around at the other half crying my boy was laughing. I'm not sure what he found to be so funny, probably all of us goofy parents trying to coax impossible smiles out of the criers.
We topped off our day with a bit of shopping and dinner at Lucy's. We can get a great cup of egg-drop noodleflower soup there for Benjamin and quite a few American style dishes to tempt Abigail's testy tastebuds. We've learned that the secret to get Benjamin to eat vegetables is to cover them in ketchup...broccoli, peppers, cucumber...yeah, I know. Gross! But hey! It works for him. Perhaps I should try dipping everything I want Abigail to eat in chocolate.
Abigail has really surprised me this trip. She is very quiet and observant most of the time. Usually you have to ask her to find out what she's thinking. Since becoming a fam of five she has been the ultimate helper! I seldom ask her to do anything for Benjamin, but I find she's there at the ready. I'll turn to do something for him and find her already there. Today while she was coloring he toddled over to her and climbed up on the bed next to her. She gave him a colored pencil and allowed him to scribble away on the next page. She's so patient and loving toward him. I hope she'll always feel so patient with him. I pray we ALL will. :o)
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
The group photo of all the adopted children is hysterical!! -niki
Posted by: niki on May 25, 2010 at 06:33 A.M.
It sounds like everyone is finding their special place in your growing family. Can't wait to see everyone again.Love and miss you all.
Posted by: susan evans on May 25, 2010 at 06:45 A.M.
I could have picked him out on that couch even if I had never seen his picture before:)
He is fitting right in to the Croy clan.
Can't wait until Saturday so I can see you all. Keep posting!
Cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 25, 2010 at 07:38 A.M.
*Well, we have another Croy boy and it looks like he'll fit in just fine. Can't wait to see all of you when you get back. What time do you get back into Tampa and on what flight? We would love to meet you guys at the airport.
Posted by: Uncle Bill & Aunt Debbie on May 25, 2010 at 07:26 P.M.
*What do you mean that food means love "to Olivia?" Doesn't it mean that to everyone? Olivia is your family Confucius on this trip :-) Glad you are finished with the formalities and preparing to travel home. You are missed... (although I don't know what I will do when you return home and stop blogging!)
Posted by: Teresa on May 26, 2010 at 03:56 A.M.
Golden nuggets of wisdom and other tidbits from big sister Olivia
Each morning at breakfast I send Dale with the girls to the breakfast buffet to pick out what they want and to bring back something to appease Benjamin while I fix his plate and mine. Today while Dale headed back for juice for them I asked Olivia if Ben could have one of her chicken nuggets, which she grudgingly gave up. A few minutes later after Benjamin made a funny face, making Abigail and I laugh out loud I asked Abigail and Olivia if they love their little brother. Abigail said yes right away and smiled. I've never seen her laugh so much before Benjamin joined our family. He is truly funny and his laugh is contagious. Olivia was eating her breakfast and didn't say anything so I asked her again if she loves him. She rolled her eyes a bit and replied, "I gave him my chicken nugget, didn't I?" I forget sometimes, to Olivia, food is love. She loved him a little bit more at lunch time when she shared her sandwich and cookie without prompting and again at dinner when she offered half of her apple juice when Ben's didn't arrive right away. She's coming around, one meal at a time. :o)
Yesterday when we ate lunch at Subway we met an American man who is here on business, Mr. Alan Holder. He is here alone and missing his family, which includes an adopted Chinese daughter named Amanda. He and Olivia shared a long conversation while we ordered lunch and got everyone settled. He shared with her that he is lonely without his family here since his wife didn't want to travel. To that she said, "Well, at least you got some peace and quiet, don'tcha?" Mr. Holder died laughing.
This morning was our Consulate appointment. Jocelyn and Kathy from our agency went in our place with all of our visa documents and Benjamin's passport and physical information. I stayed in our room as instructed from 10:00 to 12:00 in case there was a problem and they needed to call. I sent Dale with the kids down to the play room. There was no need for all of us to be cooped up in the matchbox. (Remember, yesterday it was a shoebox? Well, that room continues to grow smaller and smaller every day). The call came from Kathy at 11:30 that all is well and we'll be receiving Ben's visa without a hitch. Yippee! Not that I expected any problems, but who ever does?
To celebrate this next hurdle being jumped Dale took the girls to the pool while Benjamin and I went out strolling and shopping. Now I believe I've inserted a few photos already of some of the brides and grooms we've spotted, but today we hit the jackpot. I finally stopped counting the happy couples after 7. At one time there was one on every corner of the intersection we were crossing. Shamien Island is quite the hotspot for wedding pictures, despite the construction going on. The gardens are still beautifully maintained and make for a great backdrop. At one point one of the brides was changing into a different gown. The groom, the photographer, and his assistant held up a portable changing room right there on the street and after a few minutes the bride tossed her gown over the top and emerged in a different dress. It was hysterical.
This afternoon we had the "red couch" photos, an adoptive family tradition where our adoption group meets to take family and group photos. The fun really begins when all the family pics are done and then all the babies are placed together on the red couch for a group shot. It's got to happen quickly or many of the babies will be crying before the first click. New moms are the worse for turning loose and jumping back fast enough for a good photo. Personally, I think the whole affair is quite hysterical, and apparently so did Benjamin. While half the babies were looking around at the other half crying my boy was laughing. I'm not sure what he found to be so funny, probably all of us goofy parents trying to coax impossible smiles out of the criers.
We topped off our day with a bit of shopping and dinner at Lucy's. We can get a great cup of egg-drop noodleflower soup there for Benjamin and quite a few American style dishes to tempt Abigail's testy tastebuds. We've learned that the secret to get Benjamin to eat vegetables is to cover them in ketchup...broccoli, peppers, cucumber...yeah, I know. Gross! But hey! It works for him. Perhaps I should try dipping everything I want Abigail to eat in chocolate.
Abigail has really surprised me this trip. She is very quiet and observant most of the time. Usually you have to ask her to find out what she's thinking. Since becoming a fam of five she has been the ultimate helper! I seldom ask her to do anything for Benjamin, but I find she's there at the ready. I'll turn to do something for him and find her already there. Today while she was coloring he toddled over to her and climbed up on the bed next to her. She gave him a colored pencil and allowed him to scribble away on the next page. She's so patient and loving toward him. I hope she'll always feel so patient with him. I pray we ALL will. :o)
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
The group photo of all the adopted children is hysterical!! -niki
Posted by: niki on May 25, 2010 at 06:33 A.M.
It sounds like everyone is finding their special place in your growing family. Can't wait to see everyone again.Love and miss you all.
Posted by: susan evans on May 25, 2010 at 06:45 A.M.
I could have picked him out on that couch even if I had never seen his picture before:)
He is fitting right in to the Croy clan.
Can't wait until Saturday so I can see you all. Keep posting!
Cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 25, 2010 at 07:38 A.M.
*Well, we have another Croy boy and it looks like he'll fit in just fine. Can't wait to see all of you when you get back. What time do you get back into Tampa and on what flight? We would love to meet you guys at the airport.
Posted by: Uncle Bill & Aunt Debbie on May 25, 2010 at 07:26 P.M.
*What do you mean that food means love "to Olivia?" Doesn't it mean that to everyone? Olivia is your family Confucius on this trip :-) Glad you are finished with the formalities and preparing to travel home. You are missed... (although I don't know what I will do when you return home and stop blogging!)
Posted by: Teresa on May 26, 2010 at 03:56 A.M.
Promises, promises
May 24, 2010
In life we make lots of promises, promises we keep, promises we break. In February we wrote a letter promising to take care of this little boy we had not met yet, to never abuse or mistreat him, to love and educate him as our own. Last week we met this little Chinese cherub we call Benjamin and promised those things again after we met him and then were put to the test to care for him in an emergency situation almost immediately. With God's help we survived that first test. In a few days we will go to the American Consulate to promise yet again to raise this child as our own. Meanwhile we are ready to get home. Shamien Island is not the same with all of the construction and we are trying to fill out days so they pass quickly. We love China, but it's time to be home now and we don't leave for four more days.
Just a few observations about our little guy: Benjamin has a halo. God knows he needs one, too! But seriously, and not so seriously, Benjamin has a halo. I thought this a few days ago when I saw the sun hitting the top of his little head while we were out for a stroll and meant to say something to Dale about it but with all the chaos of traffic and keeping everyone out of it I forgot about it. The next day Dale asked me if I had noticed that when the sun hits the top of Benjamin's head just right that it looks like he has a halo. I finished his sentence mid-stream and we laughed and laughed about it. He had a temper like the devil, hot and fast, but it burns out quickly, so his little halo is there to remind me that he a CAN be a perfect angel when he chooses.
Yesterday we went to the pool and learned that Benjamin has absolutely NO FEAR of water. He slipped under a few times and after the first time held his breath. Yep. I see swimming lessons in his future this summer. Just beyond the pool and our hotel is the Pearl River, the 4th longest river in China. The boats and barges are up and down the river all day, hauling rice, fish, all sorts of cargo. It's truly an amazing scene.
As I mentioned, the traffic is another amazing sight. People in and on all manner of transportation share the roadways at all times, even pedestrians. Abigail and Olivia have given me more than a few grey hairs worrying they are going to be hit by a car. Rather than call them indiviually to get in a narrow straight line to avoid being hit we simply have a code now: Baby duck! When they hear that they know to IMMEDIATELY get in line one behind the other between me and Dale so they don't get hit and so I don't have a heart attack!
While the island is being torn to bits to renovate and get ready for the Asian games being held this fall, the bronze statues are still everywhere and Abigail and Olivia are enjoying posing with them. We started snapping their pictures with the statures yesterday and the locals took their pictures as well. Today we're seeing the locals posing their children with the statues. Too funny!
We made a quick trip to the clinic to have Benjamin's TB test read. He passed with flying colors! We were the first ones in and were there less than five minutes. Let's hope he passes his college entrance exams so easily. :o) He's a smart, smart boy, so it wouldn't surprise me, but then I'm just his proud mama.
We spent severl hours in the Swan Room, the play room at the White Swan Hotel which Mattel outfitted for adoptive families to have a place for their children to play. It was a Benjamin-friendly environment. Of course he still found quite a few places to climb, even though he wasn't supposed to. Then he crashed for a couple hours nap. It was wonderful, and it was bigger than the cracker-box size hotel room we're calling home right now. It gets smaller and smaller as the days go by. I think we'll find ourselves there again tomorrow between the pool and dinner. After Benjamin woke up we went out for a late lunch/early dinner at Subway. Yes, Subway...and almost just like home. It wasn't here five years ago and with our favorite noodle shop being gone there isn't much to choose from that isn't too expensive. Even Lucy's Cafe which caters to Americans has become a bit pricey. There's less competition and therefore the prices are higher. On our way back to the hotel from Subway we stopped at another new addition to the island: Starbucks. There was a small Starbucks before, but this is a really nice Starbucks with compfy seating, Wifi, and A/C, not to mention the blueberry cheesecake that Benjamin went crazy for. While I was sharing a slice with him Abigail and Olivia pounced on my mocha frappaccino. Two straws and two minutes later and it was gone! It all tasted like home, though. I think we'll make another stop there this week. I just won't turn my back on my coffee next time.
One more site that I must mention is the kapok trees, or the cotton trees. They have gone to seed and "cotton" is floating in the air everywhere. As we are out walking Abigail, my little seed-collecting, green-thumbing, Grandma's girl is gathering as many puffs as she can. Tonight when she was emptying her pockets she had a handful of the little black seeds she had pulled out of the cotton. She fully planned to take them home and plant them. Hated, just hated telling her how illegal that is. (Just hush, Virginia! I can hear your scolding now. It's the LAW for goodness sakes!) I promise to make it up to her somehow.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Hello Croy family,
I love the pictures of the statues, they are hilarious! We can't wait for you all to get home. I hope you will be ready for Cracker Barrel sweet tea and biscuits cause we are picking you up hungry!
Love to you all,
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 24, 2010 at 07:43 A.M.
*Benjamin is going to keep you guys on your toes it sounds like!! Hurry home, we can't wait to meet him and hear all the stories!! -niki
Posted by: niki on May 24, 2010 at 08:25 A.M.
Dale, Carmen, Abigail, Olivia and Benjamin, What an exciting time for the Croy family. And how awesome it is to follow your journey. We are praying for you and can't wait to you get home!
Posted by: Wilma on May 24, 2010 at 11:57 A.M.
*Hey Guys-I feel your exhaustion. You just want to get home and get about the business of being a family. So glad Benjamin has a visible halo because you will probably need a reminder of his angelic status periodically. Sending you love and support as you prepare to come home.
Posted by: Teresa on May 24, 2010 at 12:28 P.M.
*Still can't see how many "round" is in his head.
We are waiting for you to come back sooooo bad, watching Benjamin's room get better and cooler.
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 24, 2010 at 01:37 P.M.
*I'm so glad that Benjamin is better. God has truly blessed you and Dale with two beautiful girls and one handsome little boy. He has also given you the best of both world with all the experiences you will have raising all three of those precious children.I've been updating Mama and Daddy on your trip and we will be glad when you get home. Hugs and kisses to all.
Love,
Cousin Penny, Jeff, Bryan, Craig and Caleb
Posted by: Penny Cook on May 24, 2010 at 05:05 P.M.
In life we make lots of promises, promises we keep, promises we break. In February we wrote a letter promising to take care of this little boy we had not met yet, to never abuse or mistreat him, to love and educate him as our own. Last week we met this little Chinese cherub we call Benjamin and promised those things again after we met him and then were put to the test to care for him in an emergency situation almost immediately. With God's help we survived that first test. In a few days we will go to the American Consulate to promise yet again to raise this child as our own. Meanwhile we are ready to get home. Shamien Island is not the same with all of the construction and we are trying to fill out days so they pass quickly. We love China, but it's time to be home now and we don't leave for four more days.
Just a few observations about our little guy: Benjamin has a halo. God knows he needs one, too! But seriously, and not so seriously, Benjamin has a halo. I thought this a few days ago when I saw the sun hitting the top of his little head while we were out for a stroll and meant to say something to Dale about it but with all the chaos of traffic and keeping everyone out of it I forgot about it. The next day Dale asked me if I had noticed that when the sun hits the top of Benjamin's head just right that it looks like he has a halo. I finished his sentence mid-stream and we laughed and laughed about it. He had a temper like the devil, hot and fast, but it burns out quickly, so his little halo is there to remind me that he a CAN be a perfect angel when he chooses.
Yesterday we went to the pool and learned that Benjamin has absolutely NO FEAR of water. He slipped under a few times and after the first time held his breath. Yep. I see swimming lessons in his future this summer. Just beyond the pool and our hotel is the Pearl River, the 4th longest river in China. The boats and barges are up and down the river all day, hauling rice, fish, all sorts of cargo. It's truly an amazing scene.
As I mentioned, the traffic is another amazing sight. People in and on all manner of transportation share the roadways at all times, even pedestrians. Abigail and Olivia have given me more than a few grey hairs worrying they are going to be hit by a car. Rather than call them indiviually to get in a narrow straight line to avoid being hit we simply have a code now: Baby duck! When they hear that they know to IMMEDIATELY get in line one behind the other between me and Dale so they don't get hit and so I don't have a heart attack!
While the island is being torn to bits to renovate and get ready for the Asian games being held this fall, the bronze statues are still everywhere and Abigail and Olivia are enjoying posing with them. We started snapping their pictures with the statures yesterday and the locals took their pictures as well. Today we're seeing the locals posing their children with the statues. Too funny!
We made a quick trip to the clinic to have Benjamin's TB test read. He passed with flying colors! We were the first ones in and were there less than five minutes. Let's hope he passes his college entrance exams so easily. :o) He's a smart, smart boy, so it wouldn't surprise me, but then I'm just his proud mama.
We spent severl hours in the Swan Room, the play room at the White Swan Hotel which Mattel outfitted for adoptive families to have a place for their children to play. It was a Benjamin-friendly environment. Of course he still found quite a few places to climb, even though he wasn't supposed to. Then he crashed for a couple hours nap. It was wonderful, and it was bigger than the cracker-box size hotel room we're calling home right now. It gets smaller and smaller as the days go by. I think we'll find ourselves there again tomorrow between the pool and dinner. After Benjamin woke up we went out for a late lunch/early dinner at Subway. Yes, Subway...and almost just like home. It wasn't here five years ago and with our favorite noodle shop being gone there isn't much to choose from that isn't too expensive. Even Lucy's Cafe which caters to Americans has become a bit pricey. There's less competition and therefore the prices are higher. On our way back to the hotel from Subway we stopped at another new addition to the island: Starbucks. There was a small Starbucks before, but this is a really nice Starbucks with compfy seating, Wifi, and A/C, not to mention the blueberry cheesecake that Benjamin went crazy for. While I was sharing a slice with him Abigail and Olivia pounced on my mocha frappaccino. Two straws and two minutes later and it was gone! It all tasted like home, though. I think we'll make another stop there this week. I just won't turn my back on my coffee next time.
One more site that I must mention is the kapok trees, or the cotton trees. They have gone to seed and "cotton" is floating in the air everywhere. As we are out walking Abigail, my little seed-collecting, green-thumbing, Grandma's girl is gathering as many puffs as she can. Tonight when she was emptying her pockets she had a handful of the little black seeds she had pulled out of the cotton. She fully planned to take them home and plant them. Hated, just hated telling her how illegal that is. (Just hush, Virginia! I can hear your scolding now. It's the LAW for goodness sakes!) I promise to make it up to her somehow.
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Hello Croy family,
I love the pictures of the statues, they are hilarious! We can't wait for you all to get home. I hope you will be ready for Cracker Barrel sweet tea and biscuits cause we are picking you up hungry!
Love to you all,
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 24, 2010 at 07:43 A.M.
*Benjamin is going to keep you guys on your toes it sounds like!! Hurry home, we can't wait to meet him and hear all the stories!! -niki
Posted by: niki on May 24, 2010 at 08:25 A.M.
Dale, Carmen, Abigail, Olivia and Benjamin, What an exciting time for the Croy family. And how awesome it is to follow your journey. We are praying for you and can't wait to you get home!
Posted by: Wilma on May 24, 2010 at 11:57 A.M.
*Hey Guys-I feel your exhaustion. You just want to get home and get about the business of being a family. So glad Benjamin has a visible halo because you will probably need a reminder of his angelic status periodically. Sending you love and support as you prepare to come home.
Posted by: Teresa on May 24, 2010 at 12:28 P.M.
*Still can't see how many "round" is in his head.
We are waiting for you to come back sooooo bad, watching Benjamin's room get better and cooler.
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 24, 2010 at 01:37 P.M.
*I'm so glad that Benjamin is better. God has truly blessed you and Dale with two beautiful girls and one handsome little boy. He has also given you the best of both world with all the experiences you will have raising all three of those precious children.I've been updating Mama and Daddy on your trip and we will be glad when you get home. Hugs and kisses to all.
Love,
Cousin Penny, Jeff, Bryan, Craig and Caleb
Posted by: Penny Cook on May 24, 2010 at 05:05 P.M.
This Little Piggie Went to Guangzhou
May 21, 2010
The last 24 hours have been very busy with getting Benjamin to the hospital for another IV treatment and traveling to Guangzhou. Then this morning we had to hurry to the International Adoption clinic for Benjamin's physical and TB test...in the rain through muddy, torn-up streets. I picked the right day to wear a white linen skirt. :oP But then, with Ben sick the last few days I didn't do much laundry. There wasn't much to pick from. I'm now at Michael's Place down the street from the White Swan using his free-to-customers-and-adoptive-families Internet service. Of couse we will pay for it in the long run. He's got a great little shop here.
During the past few nights Dale and I have alternated getting up throughout the night to check Benjamin's temp to make sure he's not fevered. Last fever at all was yesterday morning and it was low, Praise the Lord! Dale took him to the hospital with one of our guides yesterday after breakfast so I could pack for the next flight. It's always a challenge to squeeze 10 pounds of flour into a 5 pound sack, and Dale opted for what he thought would be less complicated. He had an ordeal, though, with Benjamin feeling better. Our guide, Rita, informed Dale that she has no children yet, but after taking the trip to the hospital with them she plans to have only girls. She told me later that she was just kidding, and I said, "Yeah, right."
Benjamin continues to be quite a charmer. He turns heads everywhere we go, though some in our group would say that's because of his hair style. They ask me when we're going to cut it and I say, "Who said we were?" :o) Actually it really suits his personality. :o) We'll let a professional deal with it when we get home, though.
Abigail sat by the window with Ben in the middle on our flight to Guangzhou, Benjamin's first flight (to my knowledge). It was also Abigail's first time to sit by the window. That really shocked me considering how many times she's been on an airplane. I'm not sure who was more fun to watch on our flight. Benjamin LOVED the take off and landing. Abigail kept exclaiming about seeing the farms, houses, cars, etc. from her window and how tiny they looked. She has been the perfect little mama hen with Ben. She helped him buckle his seat belt. Problem is he's very independent in his thinking. He unbuckled it and then tried to rebuckle it himself. She fastened it back for him and he threw a royal fit. It took a few tries, but finally he got it before we took off. I think we know now where the scar came from on the back of his head. He throws himself backward with surprising force when he's angry or doesn't get his way. It happens REALLY FAST, too, and it's usually over pretty quick. But by then, unless you catch him in time, the damage is done.
We arrived at our hotel, the Whie Swan around 10:30 last night and then had to wait to check in and for our luggage to arrive. We walked in to our very cool hotel room...with the two TWIN beds and a crib around 11:00. All adjoining rooms were booked so we shoved the beds together to make one huge family bed. Worked great. Now if I can figure out how to keep the little feet out of my face for the next 6 nights. :o)
This morning after breakfast we hustled to the clinic, stopping on the way there for Benjamin's visa photo to be taken. It's SO HUMID here compared to the coolness of Zhengzhou. Why did I bother with hair and makeup?! Benjamin fell asleep while waiting for his turn and I thought that would be a good thing, but the clinic doctor wanted to wake him up before giving him the TB test. Bummer! She was afraid he'd have nightmares and insisted that I wake him up first. Well, the test was nothing to him. My taking away the hard candy she gave him for being such a good boy on the other hand turned him into the Tasmanian devil. But no way was I going to let him have that candy in his mouth, just the right size for choking, while we strolled back to the hotel.
On the way back we passed the 7-11 and stopped for one of Nick's favs: Apple icee. Benjamin loves it, too. It was so refreshing, though I think it gave him a brain freeze initially. However he kept coming back for more.
We have the rest of the day off to shop, rest, whatever before filling out more visa paperwork tomorrow. We on the downhill slope from here on out. Just pray Benjamin's TB test is negative when they check it on Monday. He already had one test in Beijing while at Angel House and it was negative, so we're expecting good results.
Love to all!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Oh my heavens..that picture of Dale Croy holding his sleeping boy is priceless. Glad I missed you waking him up and taking away his candy. Bet that was priceless too. Nick will be so jealous over the apple Icee! Be sure to shop at the art gallery down by the embassies where Jordan's shop used to be. They have awesome farmer's art. We tried to break the bank there. Go see Jordan as well. He was a treasure trove of info on Zhengzhou and Henan in general. Remind him that we had him write down "Water in Swim" which we were pronouncing Shwaydi yoda. It was the first term Bekah taught us and he said people would think we were crazy if we used it! He wrote it on paper with her name on the back.
Posted by: Teresa on May 22, 2010 at 05:10 A.M.
*Hi,
Congratulations on adopting your beautiful little boy. I adopted my daughter in july 2006 and stayed at the White Swan Hotel. There is a doctor at the hotel if you should need one. If I remember correctly, the office is on the second or third floor. I needed to use them for my daughter because she had abcesses on her forehead when I got her. Good luck. I hope your little one feels better soon.
Posted by: Liz on May 22, 2010 at 05:19 A.M.
*Carmen, enjoying so much reading about your adoption adventures. Can't wait to see your little son at church when you all get back. He is such a cutie! My daughter and her husband are adopting too and we will have a new grandchild in the next few months. Saying a prayer for your safe journey back and for Benjamin's T.B. test. God bless.
Posted by: Rita Balsano on May 22, 2010 at 05:07 P.M.
*Carmen,
I'm so glad to hear that Benjamin is feeling better. I felt so terrible to hear of his struggles earlier. I can't even imagine how that was for you and your family. I will continue to pray for rest, relaxation, and a safe journey home. Enjoy your last few days of your trip!
Miss you here!
Dawn Pirke
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 24, 2010 at 04:10 A.M.
*We (my children in class) have enjoyed going on your journey with you the past three weeks.
We have turned it into a Geography lesson and cultural experience. It means so much more when they can relate the informatin to someone they know. I am sure they will drive you crazy with questions when ya'll get home. I wish you a safe return trip and I am happy that Benjamin is healthy. God bless you all!!
Posted by: kathy Young on May 25, 2010 at 05:50 A.M.
The last 24 hours have been very busy with getting Benjamin to the hospital for another IV treatment and traveling to Guangzhou. Then this morning we had to hurry to the International Adoption clinic for Benjamin's physical and TB test...in the rain through muddy, torn-up streets. I picked the right day to wear a white linen skirt. :oP But then, with Ben sick the last few days I didn't do much laundry. There wasn't much to pick from. I'm now at Michael's Place down the street from the White Swan using his free-to-customers-and-adoptive-families Internet service. Of couse we will pay for it in the long run. He's got a great little shop here.
During the past few nights Dale and I have alternated getting up throughout the night to check Benjamin's temp to make sure he's not fevered. Last fever at all was yesterday morning and it was low, Praise the Lord! Dale took him to the hospital with one of our guides yesterday after breakfast so I could pack for the next flight. It's always a challenge to squeeze 10 pounds of flour into a 5 pound sack, and Dale opted for what he thought would be less complicated. He had an ordeal, though, with Benjamin feeling better. Our guide, Rita, informed Dale that she has no children yet, but after taking the trip to the hospital with them she plans to have only girls. She told me later that she was just kidding, and I said, "Yeah, right."
Benjamin continues to be quite a charmer. He turns heads everywhere we go, though some in our group would say that's because of his hair style. They ask me when we're going to cut it and I say, "Who said we were?" :o) Actually it really suits his personality. :o) We'll let a professional deal with it when we get home, though.
Abigail sat by the window with Ben in the middle on our flight to Guangzhou, Benjamin's first flight (to my knowledge). It was also Abigail's first time to sit by the window. That really shocked me considering how many times she's been on an airplane. I'm not sure who was more fun to watch on our flight. Benjamin LOVED the take off and landing. Abigail kept exclaiming about seeing the farms, houses, cars, etc. from her window and how tiny they looked. She has been the perfect little mama hen with Ben. She helped him buckle his seat belt. Problem is he's very independent in his thinking. He unbuckled it and then tried to rebuckle it himself. She fastened it back for him and he threw a royal fit. It took a few tries, but finally he got it before we took off. I think we know now where the scar came from on the back of his head. He throws himself backward with surprising force when he's angry or doesn't get his way. It happens REALLY FAST, too, and it's usually over pretty quick. But by then, unless you catch him in time, the damage is done.
We arrived at our hotel, the Whie Swan around 10:30 last night and then had to wait to check in and for our luggage to arrive. We walked in to our very cool hotel room...with the two TWIN beds and a crib around 11:00. All adjoining rooms were booked so we shoved the beds together to make one huge family bed. Worked great. Now if I can figure out how to keep the little feet out of my face for the next 6 nights. :o)
This morning after breakfast we hustled to the clinic, stopping on the way there for Benjamin's visa photo to be taken. It's SO HUMID here compared to the coolness of Zhengzhou. Why did I bother with hair and makeup?! Benjamin fell asleep while waiting for his turn and I thought that would be a good thing, but the clinic doctor wanted to wake him up before giving him the TB test. Bummer! She was afraid he'd have nightmares and insisted that I wake him up first. Well, the test was nothing to him. My taking away the hard candy she gave him for being such a good boy on the other hand turned him into the Tasmanian devil. But no way was I going to let him have that candy in his mouth, just the right size for choking, while we strolled back to the hotel.
On the way back we passed the 7-11 and stopped for one of Nick's favs: Apple icee. Benjamin loves it, too. It was so refreshing, though I think it gave him a brain freeze initially. However he kept coming back for more.
We have the rest of the day off to shop, rest, whatever before filling out more visa paperwork tomorrow. We on the downhill slope from here on out. Just pray Benjamin's TB test is negative when they check it on Monday. He already had one test in Beijing while at Angel House and it was negative, so we're expecting good results.
Love to all!
COMMENTS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY:
*Oh my heavens..that picture of Dale Croy holding his sleeping boy is priceless. Glad I missed you waking him up and taking away his candy. Bet that was priceless too. Nick will be so jealous over the apple Icee! Be sure to shop at the art gallery down by the embassies where Jordan's shop used to be. They have awesome farmer's art. We tried to break the bank there. Go see Jordan as well. He was a treasure trove of info on Zhengzhou and Henan in general. Remind him that we had him write down "Water in Swim" which we were pronouncing Shwaydi yoda. It was the first term Bekah taught us and he said people would think we were crazy if we used it! He wrote it on paper with her name on the back.
Posted by: Teresa on May 22, 2010 at 05:10 A.M.
*Hi,
Congratulations on adopting your beautiful little boy. I adopted my daughter in july 2006 and stayed at the White Swan Hotel. There is a doctor at the hotel if you should need one. If I remember correctly, the office is on the second or third floor. I needed to use them for my daughter because she had abcesses on her forehead when I got her. Good luck. I hope your little one feels better soon.
Posted by: Liz on May 22, 2010 at 05:19 A.M.
*Carmen, enjoying so much reading about your adoption adventures. Can't wait to see your little son at church when you all get back. He is such a cutie! My daughter and her husband are adopting too and we will have a new grandchild in the next few months. Saying a prayer for your safe journey back and for Benjamin's T.B. test. God bless.
Posted by: Rita Balsano on May 22, 2010 at 05:07 P.M.
*Carmen,
I'm so glad to hear that Benjamin is feeling better. I felt so terrible to hear of his struggles earlier. I can't even imagine how that was for you and your family. I will continue to pray for rest, relaxation, and a safe journey home. Enjoy your last few days of your trip!
Miss you here!
Dawn Pirke
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 24, 2010 at 04:10 A.M.
*We (my children in class) have enjoyed going on your journey with you the past three weeks.
We have turned it into a Geography lesson and cultural experience. It means so much more when they can relate the informatin to someone they know. I am sure they will drive you crazy with questions when ya'll get home. I wish you a safe return trip and I am happy that Benjamin is healthy. God bless you all!!
Posted by: kathy Young on May 25, 2010 at 05:50 A.M.
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
What a difference a day makes...
May 20, 2010
Yesterday afternoon while out shopping I took Benjamin out of the stroller so he could walk a bit. I noticed he felt warm. We were on our way back to the hotel at that point and I took his temp as soon as we arrived, but I already knew from pressing my lips to his forehead that he was cookin' pretty hot. Gave him some tylenol and juice. He took a nap. We went to dinner with our new friends Tracy and Jeremiah and little Phillips. Motrin had been snatched off the shelf in Bartow a few days before we left home and I had not, but Tracy had extra and shared with us so Benjamin had some Motrin with his dinner. Just before bed his temp was down a little so more tylenol and with no fight this time he was asleep pretty soon.
Jump to 4 a.m. He stirred I guess, and I sat up to find him sitting up in his crib. I reached for his forehead and could feel the heat from him before I ever made contact. I gave him some tylenol and turned for some juice when I heard a strange noise. He was having a febrile seizure. Terrifying to say the least. I called out to Dale to get Yisha, our CCAI local rep, a few doors down. She was there in minutes and immediately grabbed his head and pressed VERY HARD with her thumb nail just under his nose. She has had medical training and acupuncture training and said she was pressing his pressure point there. He started to cry and come out of his listless state almost immediately. It hurt me to watch it, though. She called for ice and started helping us get his fever down. (I thought the "new" way was cool, not freezing compress, but what do I know? There are definately differences in Eastern and Western methods of medicine and when in Rome...besides, I was pretty much beside myself seeing Benjamin in this state). Yisha informed me that there were no doctors at the hospital at this hour and we would take him at 8:00. So Dale took over changing out the compresses every few minutes and getting him to drink as much as possible while I slept to get ready for the hospital visit.
A few minutes before 8:00 when I was getting ready to take Benjamin to meet Yisha for the hospital trip he started seizing again. This time was worse than the first, but I grabbed his head and pressed that pressure point as hard as I could and he came out of the seizure much quicker this time. Dale went for Yisha. Another family in our group, Dave and Kathy, offered to keep Abigail and Olivia with them so Dale could go with us to the hospital. They were a God-send.
The hospital visit was something out of a movie...from the 1930s. The process was so different from what we're used to and thank God we had Yisha to navigate for us. We first had to pay 200 RMB for a registration card, then up two floors to the pediatric ward. We didn't sit in a waiting room. We barged right in to the doctor behind another woman with her baby in her arms. Yisha said something to this woman and she went and sat down, letting us go first. I didn't realize until later that this was the doctor sitting at the desk. I thought perhaps she was a nurse or receptionist. After a quick exam the doctor ordered a blood test. Down one flight we went on the escalator into a dimly lit hallway where we shoved Ben's arm under a glass where a lab tech took his blood. Then back to the doctor's room. She ordered some meds for the fever and infection causing it. Yisha told Dale to sit with Benjamin while she and I went downstairs to fetch the meds. At the "pharmacy" window we were told to add more money to the card, so a mad dash back to the registration window where we had purchased the card to begin with, another 200 RMB. (For those of you who don't know, the exchange rate is 1 US : 6.8 RMB currently, so it wasn't much, really). We retrieved the meds from the pharmacy, another dimly lit room, no refrigeration, where all kinds of bottles and vials were organized in metal cabinets.
Then we were back up to get Dale and Benjamin and take him to the "infusion area." There we gave our card over once again, and were told once again to go get more money on the card! I'm thinking at this poing, "can't you just treat my baby and let me pay for it all at once in the end for heaven's sake!? Yisha and I flew back downstairs to add more money to the card while Benjamin just got hotter and hotter. Back upstairs to the infustion area to pay with the card and then wait for his turn. Yisha disappeared for a moment and then miraculously we were called. We went into a very small room that had two small "tables" where two nurses were stationed and two babies at a time could receive an IV. Our nurse started to hunt for a vein. And hunt and hunt. Then she started tapping on him. My cousin Kristie, (a very good nurse who had planned to travel with us but her jerk boss wouldn't give her the time off) has told me before that if a nurse starts tapping on you they don't know what they're doing. So it's just gets better and better, right? After failing to find a vein in his hands she moved to his forehead with a razor. She shaved an area and was just getting ready to insert the IV when he went into yet another seizure. She dropped the needle and pressed him hard under his nose the same way Yisha had done. This was his worse one yet, and one that could have been avoided if we could have gotten his fever down sooner. Fear and anger welled up in me and I nearly started to cry, but was able to hold it off for Benjamin and pray while the nurses tag-teamed him and got the IV needle in FINALLY. Then they sent up out to the waiting area again for the IV to run it's course. Yisha asserted her authority once again and was able to get us one of the IV stands to take with us. Many parents were standing over their children holding the IV solutions over their heads the entire time. Our stand had two sides so we shared with another family.
After what seemed an eternity and a few hiccups the medicine was finally in Benjamin's hot little body and we were on our way back to the hotel. There he slept for most of the day except for about an hour when he woke and I was able to get him to take some motrin, eat a few sweet potato chips and drink some watered-down Sprite. Dale took the girls to a local park with Dave and Kathy and their two girls and they had a blast while Benjamin and I got a nap. During this time Yisha was in touch with Pingdingshan SWI to find out if Benjamin has a history of seizures. I told her I had noticed another shaved spot on his forehead on Monday when they handed him to me, but had not thought much about it. Now I wonder if the haircut he received a few days before we came to China was not an effort to cover that up. Yisha came back to tell me that Benjamin is supposedly allergic to the DTP vaccine, that he will run a high fever and have a seizure if he gets it. She pressed further and found that he has a seizure anytime he runs a fever over 37.5 degrees Celcius, whatever that heck that converts to in Farenheit?!!
So, the plan? Benjamin is not to get a high fever. Part 2 of the plan? Anyone know where our pediatrician, Dr. C lives? Egg his house for me, will ya? He refused to give us antibiotics to bring with us in case they were needed, even though I explained I would call him before administering if we found they were needed. When they gave Benjamin to us on Monday he had a runny nose, a GREEN runny nose. I would have started antiBs Monday if I had had them. On Tuesday he seemed better, less runny nose, no fever until the afternoon, so I didn't ask for a trip to the doctor on Tuesday. If Dr. Shah had been our doctor we would have had the meds needed to avoid this illness getting so out of hand so quickly and I will bend Dr. C's ear when we get home. I know that so many drs. refuse to do what I had asked of him, but in my opinion it was just plain ignorance on his part. In the effort to "protect" Benjamin from my playing doctor we had to expose him to God only knows what at the hospital today, sights I can tell you about later since my time is limited right now.
The bright side? It's obvious to me that Benjamin's mother gave him up out of love. The payment process for treatment was mind-boggling, and if you didn't have the money you didn't get the treatment. Benjamin was left in the waiting area of a hospital, much like the one we visited today. That tells me all the more that she left him to be found where he could receive treatment, not in a field or the market, not on the street. I can tell him that one day.
Another bright side? The green-eyed monster lost a little bit of stature today. She told me she's not so jealous of him anymore. She was worried about him and nearly cried when she heard he got "shot in the head," as she recounted it to Abigail. She's been very loving toward him the whole time, just a bit over-clingy toward Dale and I until this happened. She's feeling more secure again.
Please continue to pray for us while we get Benjamin over whatever infection he has in his little body. We have to go back to the hospital in the morning for another IV treatment. We'll be getting up during the night to check his temp and administer meds as needed to prevent another seizure. Then tomorrow afternoon we fly to Guangzhou for our final week in China.
Love to all!
Comments From Friends and Family:
*99.5 fahrenheit is what to watch for! What a nasty little turn your trip has taken. Hopefully Benjamin is on the road to recovery and you can finish out your trip in style. Be safe and keep us updated. Hugs to all!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 20, 2010 at 08:03 A.M.
*Oh my word!!! Definetly praying for ya'll!! Hope Benjamin feels better soon. Glad to hear the girls are adjusting well. Praise the Lord you'll be home soon. Hope you have a good rest of the trip. Be safe!
Keturah
Posted by: Keturah on May 20, 2010 at 08:26 A.M.
*Hospital is always an awful place to go.
It seems Benjamin "gets along well with IV".
Definately,i can see Olivia being the new victim of Benjamin.
Hope Ben feel better and we will be praying for you all.
Posted by: Minqi and Rhonda on May 20, 2010 at 09:02 A.M.
*Wow! Poor little guy. I don't know if you remember, but right after we returned home from China with Micah, like maybe a day or 2, he also had a febrile seizure and we took him to the emergency room and he had a CT scan. That's when they found the arachnoid cyst on his brain - totally unrelated to the seizure. We haven't had any other episodes since then. So sorry you had to endure that. We also had to go to the Dr. with Meigan in China to get her treated for scabies...yes, a visit to the hospital/Dr. office in China is quite an experience in itself. Keeping y'all in my thoughts and prayers and looking forward to seeing you soon.
Love, Rebecca
Posted by: Rebecca on May 20, 2010 at 09:32 A.M.
*i will be praying he heals quickly. i just can't imagine! i'm also praying the rest of your trip is "boring". you've had plenty of excitment thus far. too much :( hugs and love to you all.
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 20, 2010 at 10:26 A.M.
*I spend a day in the emergency room with infusions as well for our little baby Chloe in our group. It is beyond imagination. We'll swap tales when you get home. Prayers for Ben's infection making a hasty retreat and for you and Dale to get some rest. Prayers of gratitude for your new friends who watched Abigail and Olivia (although I think they probably got the better end of the deal.) Much love and support to you all until we can get you back on US soil...
Posted by: Teresa on May 20, 2010 at 12:28 P.M.
That is C-R-A-Z-Y!! Our prayers are 12 hours behind, but God is always on time. Amazing isn't it!! Maybe you can get some better follow-up care when you get to your next destination. Although somehow it matches what we know of other countries we have visited ... their local people say they go to the hospitals to die. (sorry for the morbidity)
Little Benjamin is soooo blessed to be a part of your family and have a real chance for love and health, provided "Obamacare" doesn't interfere. (sorry for the politicizing this time) Love to all!
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 20, 2010 at 04:27 P.M.
I forgot to mention that Bekah mentioned Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf in her paperwork as one of her favorite shows. We didn't get to watch it while in China but love seeing the characters in your photos. Love you!
Posted by: Teresa on May 20, 2010 at 05:25 P.M.
Now I see the lollypop.
They are the characters from cartoon. The wolf is just Unlucky as Tom in 'Tom and Jerry'.
=P
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 20, 2010 at 05:46 P.M.
Wew!! It can only get better from here right? Will be praying for little Benjamin and all of you as you enjoy the last week in China. Looking forward to seeing you at home.
Posted by: Susan Evans on May 20, 2010 at 05:50 P.M.
Yesterday afternoon while out shopping I took Benjamin out of the stroller so he could walk a bit. I noticed he felt warm. We were on our way back to the hotel at that point and I took his temp as soon as we arrived, but I already knew from pressing my lips to his forehead that he was cookin' pretty hot. Gave him some tylenol and juice. He took a nap. We went to dinner with our new friends Tracy and Jeremiah and little Phillips. Motrin had been snatched off the shelf in Bartow a few days before we left home and I had not, but Tracy had extra and shared with us so Benjamin had some Motrin with his dinner. Just before bed his temp was down a little so more tylenol and with no fight this time he was asleep pretty soon.
Jump to 4 a.m. He stirred I guess, and I sat up to find him sitting up in his crib. I reached for his forehead and could feel the heat from him before I ever made contact. I gave him some tylenol and turned for some juice when I heard a strange noise. He was having a febrile seizure. Terrifying to say the least. I called out to Dale to get Yisha, our CCAI local rep, a few doors down. She was there in minutes and immediately grabbed his head and pressed VERY HARD with her thumb nail just under his nose. She has had medical training and acupuncture training and said she was pressing his pressure point there. He started to cry and come out of his listless state almost immediately. It hurt me to watch it, though. She called for ice and started helping us get his fever down. (I thought the "new" way was cool, not freezing compress, but what do I know? There are definately differences in Eastern and Western methods of medicine and when in Rome...besides, I was pretty much beside myself seeing Benjamin in this state). Yisha informed me that there were no doctors at the hospital at this hour and we would take him at 8:00. So Dale took over changing out the compresses every few minutes and getting him to drink as much as possible while I slept to get ready for the hospital visit.
A few minutes before 8:00 when I was getting ready to take Benjamin to meet Yisha for the hospital trip he started seizing again. This time was worse than the first, but I grabbed his head and pressed that pressure point as hard as I could and he came out of the seizure much quicker this time. Dale went for Yisha. Another family in our group, Dave and Kathy, offered to keep Abigail and Olivia with them so Dale could go with us to the hospital. They were a God-send.
The hospital visit was something out of a movie...from the 1930s. The process was so different from what we're used to and thank God we had Yisha to navigate for us. We first had to pay 200 RMB for a registration card, then up two floors to the pediatric ward. We didn't sit in a waiting room. We barged right in to the doctor behind another woman with her baby in her arms. Yisha said something to this woman and she went and sat down, letting us go first. I didn't realize until later that this was the doctor sitting at the desk. I thought perhaps she was a nurse or receptionist. After a quick exam the doctor ordered a blood test. Down one flight we went on the escalator into a dimly lit hallway where we shoved Ben's arm under a glass where a lab tech took his blood. Then back to the doctor's room. She ordered some meds for the fever and infection causing it. Yisha told Dale to sit with Benjamin while she and I went downstairs to fetch the meds. At the "pharmacy" window we were told to add more money to the card, so a mad dash back to the registration window where we had purchased the card to begin with, another 200 RMB. (For those of you who don't know, the exchange rate is 1 US : 6.8 RMB currently, so it wasn't much, really). We retrieved the meds from the pharmacy, another dimly lit room, no refrigeration, where all kinds of bottles and vials were organized in metal cabinets.
Then we were back up to get Dale and Benjamin and take him to the "infusion area." There we gave our card over once again, and were told once again to go get more money on the card! I'm thinking at this poing, "can't you just treat my baby and let me pay for it all at once in the end for heaven's sake!? Yisha and I flew back downstairs to add more money to the card while Benjamin just got hotter and hotter. Back upstairs to the infustion area to pay with the card and then wait for his turn. Yisha disappeared for a moment and then miraculously we were called. We went into a very small room that had two small "tables" where two nurses were stationed and two babies at a time could receive an IV. Our nurse started to hunt for a vein. And hunt and hunt. Then she started tapping on him. My cousin Kristie, (a very good nurse who had planned to travel with us but her jerk boss wouldn't give her the time off) has told me before that if a nurse starts tapping on you they don't know what they're doing. So it's just gets better and better, right? After failing to find a vein in his hands she moved to his forehead with a razor. She shaved an area and was just getting ready to insert the IV when he went into yet another seizure. She dropped the needle and pressed him hard under his nose the same way Yisha had done. This was his worse one yet, and one that could have been avoided if we could have gotten his fever down sooner. Fear and anger welled up in me and I nearly started to cry, but was able to hold it off for Benjamin and pray while the nurses tag-teamed him and got the IV needle in FINALLY. Then they sent up out to the waiting area again for the IV to run it's course. Yisha asserted her authority once again and was able to get us one of the IV stands to take with us. Many parents were standing over their children holding the IV solutions over their heads the entire time. Our stand had two sides so we shared with another family.
After what seemed an eternity and a few hiccups the medicine was finally in Benjamin's hot little body and we were on our way back to the hotel. There he slept for most of the day except for about an hour when he woke and I was able to get him to take some motrin, eat a few sweet potato chips and drink some watered-down Sprite. Dale took the girls to a local park with Dave and Kathy and their two girls and they had a blast while Benjamin and I got a nap. During this time Yisha was in touch with Pingdingshan SWI to find out if Benjamin has a history of seizures. I told her I had noticed another shaved spot on his forehead on Monday when they handed him to me, but had not thought much about it. Now I wonder if the haircut he received a few days before we came to China was not an effort to cover that up. Yisha came back to tell me that Benjamin is supposedly allergic to the DTP vaccine, that he will run a high fever and have a seizure if he gets it. She pressed further and found that he has a seizure anytime he runs a fever over 37.5 degrees Celcius, whatever that heck that converts to in Farenheit?!!
So, the plan? Benjamin is not to get a high fever. Part 2 of the plan? Anyone know where our pediatrician, Dr. C lives? Egg his house for me, will ya? He refused to give us antibiotics to bring with us in case they were needed, even though I explained I would call him before administering if we found they were needed. When they gave Benjamin to us on Monday he had a runny nose, a GREEN runny nose. I would have started antiBs Monday if I had had them. On Tuesday he seemed better, less runny nose, no fever until the afternoon, so I didn't ask for a trip to the doctor on Tuesday. If Dr. Shah had been our doctor we would have had the meds needed to avoid this illness getting so out of hand so quickly and I will bend Dr. C's ear when we get home. I know that so many drs. refuse to do what I had asked of him, but in my opinion it was just plain ignorance on his part. In the effort to "protect" Benjamin from my playing doctor we had to expose him to God only knows what at the hospital today, sights I can tell you about later since my time is limited right now.
The bright side? It's obvious to me that Benjamin's mother gave him up out of love. The payment process for treatment was mind-boggling, and if you didn't have the money you didn't get the treatment. Benjamin was left in the waiting area of a hospital, much like the one we visited today. That tells me all the more that she left him to be found where he could receive treatment, not in a field or the market, not on the street. I can tell him that one day.
Another bright side? The green-eyed monster lost a little bit of stature today. She told me she's not so jealous of him anymore. She was worried about him and nearly cried when she heard he got "shot in the head," as she recounted it to Abigail. She's been very loving toward him the whole time, just a bit over-clingy toward Dale and I until this happened. She's feeling more secure again.
Please continue to pray for us while we get Benjamin over whatever infection he has in his little body. We have to go back to the hospital in the morning for another IV treatment. We'll be getting up during the night to check his temp and administer meds as needed to prevent another seizure. Then tomorrow afternoon we fly to Guangzhou for our final week in China.
Love to all!
Comments From Friends and Family:
*99.5 fahrenheit is what to watch for! What a nasty little turn your trip has taken. Hopefully Benjamin is on the road to recovery and you can finish out your trip in style. Be safe and keep us updated. Hugs to all!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 20, 2010 at 08:03 A.M.
*Oh my word!!! Definetly praying for ya'll!! Hope Benjamin feels better soon. Glad to hear the girls are adjusting well. Praise the Lord you'll be home soon. Hope you have a good rest of the trip. Be safe!
Keturah
Posted by: Keturah on May 20, 2010 at 08:26 A.M.
*Hospital is always an awful place to go.
It seems Benjamin "gets along well with IV".
Definately,i can see Olivia being the new victim of Benjamin.
Hope Ben feel better and we will be praying for you all.
Posted by: Minqi and Rhonda on May 20, 2010 at 09:02 A.M.
*Wow! Poor little guy. I don't know if you remember, but right after we returned home from China with Micah, like maybe a day or 2, he also had a febrile seizure and we took him to the emergency room and he had a CT scan. That's when they found the arachnoid cyst on his brain - totally unrelated to the seizure. We haven't had any other episodes since then. So sorry you had to endure that. We also had to go to the Dr. with Meigan in China to get her treated for scabies...yes, a visit to the hospital/Dr. office in China is quite an experience in itself. Keeping y'all in my thoughts and prayers and looking forward to seeing you soon.
Love, Rebecca
Posted by: Rebecca on May 20, 2010 at 09:32 A.M.
*i will be praying he heals quickly. i just can't imagine! i'm also praying the rest of your trip is "boring". you've had plenty of excitment thus far. too much :( hugs and love to you all.
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 20, 2010 at 10:26 A.M.
*I spend a day in the emergency room with infusions as well for our little baby Chloe in our group. It is beyond imagination. We'll swap tales when you get home. Prayers for Ben's infection making a hasty retreat and for you and Dale to get some rest. Prayers of gratitude for your new friends who watched Abigail and Olivia (although I think they probably got the better end of the deal.) Much love and support to you all until we can get you back on US soil...
Posted by: Teresa on May 20, 2010 at 12:28 P.M.
That is C-R-A-Z-Y!! Our prayers are 12 hours behind, but God is always on time. Amazing isn't it!! Maybe you can get some better follow-up care when you get to your next destination. Although somehow it matches what we know of other countries we have visited ... their local people say they go to the hospitals to die. (sorry for the morbidity)
Little Benjamin is soooo blessed to be a part of your family and have a real chance for love and health, provided "Obamacare" doesn't interfere. (sorry for the politicizing this time) Love to all!
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 20, 2010 at 04:27 P.M.
I forgot to mention that Bekah mentioned Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf in her paperwork as one of her favorite shows. We didn't get to watch it while in China but love seeing the characters in your photos. Love you!
Posted by: Teresa on May 20, 2010 at 05:25 P.M.
Now I see the lollypop.
They are the characters from cartoon. The wolf is just Unlucky as Tom in 'Tom and Jerry'.
=P
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 20, 2010 at 05:46 P.M.
Wew!! It can only get better from here right? Will be praying for little Benjamin and all of you as you enjoy the last week in China. Looking forward to seeing you at home.
Posted by: Susan Evans on May 20, 2010 at 05:50 P.M.
Ben's Top Ten
May 19, 2010
1. He said, "Mama!" today while reaching for me. Twice!
2. He can run faster than a speeding bullet, able to climb tall buildings in just a few bounds, and packs a pretty powerful punch.
3. He runs and hides when he's about to have a BM.
4. After that BM he LAUGHS. And LAUGHS. Meanwhile, we're all about to pass out.
5. He'd rather push Olivia in the stroller than ride in it himself.
6. The boy can EAT. Watermelon and meats are his favorites. Ice Cream and chocolate are good, too. And that's Olivia's fault, not mine. Just like Olivia liking coffee is Aunt Cindi's fault, not mine.
7. But nothing green so far passes the hallowed halls of his intestinal walls. He teased me this morning into thinking he might eat a bit of cucumber. Nah. Changed his mind.
8. He fights sleep. And fights it. And fights it.
9. He finds everything funny. If there is nothing funny around, he laughs anyway.
10. Did I mention he's called me Mama today? Twice? He also called Dale Baba (Chinese for Dad). Just once. :o)
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Mama twice? That took me three weeks to get!!!! As for the BM, he will get over thinking that BM's are funny...probably never. My boys still laugh at poop stuff. Aren't boys glorious? Aren't they wonderfully made? Love you all and am savoring every moment of your journey.
Posted by: Teresa on May 19, 2010 at 03:38 A.M.
*Remember what I prayed for?????? Well, obviously God heard my prayers for Olivia and Benjamin. Jim wanted me to remind you that he told you Ben would be a climber :) Of course he said Mama, he's smart enough to know who his mama is!
What size is he wearing in clothes and shoes just in case I find something he can't live without? Hugs and kisses, Cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 19, 2010 at 04:04 A.M.
*Croy Family!
Congratulations! Glad to hear that Benjamin is fitting in with your family wonderfully. Austin wants to know when he can run and play with Benjamin. I explained that you weren't even back in the U.S. yet. He said,"well what are they taking so long for"? Keep enjoying all your moments and memories you are building.
Safe Travels,
Dawn Pirke
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 06:16 A.M.
*sounds to me like benjamin and dillon need to get together - or maybe not :) i called dillon my ADHD baby b/c he never stopped until he crashed to sleep. i was rolling at your list. oh could i relate! so glad to hear benjamin is bonding so quickly. great news! hugs to you all.
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 19, 2010 at 01:40 P.M.
*How exciting and precious are the words "Mommy" and "daddy". We are certainly enjoying this journey with you. Thanks for letting us come along with you. Can't wait to meet Benjamin!
Posted by: Wilma on May 19, 2010 at 05:30 P.M.
*Congratulations! We are so happy for your family. We miss you Abigail.
Love,
Your classmates
Posted by: Chris Lynch on May 19, 2010 at 06:08 P.M.
*He called you momma? Twice? How awesome is that? Preston had a little pop up fire engine that he would hide in for his BM as well. (He would die if he knew I was typing this!) At least you get a little warning that way. What do you need when you get back? Let us know and we'll get it sent over! Hugs to all!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 19, 2010 at 06:14 P.M.
1. He said, "Mama!" today while reaching for me. Twice!
2. He can run faster than a speeding bullet, able to climb tall buildings in just a few bounds, and packs a pretty powerful punch.
3. He runs and hides when he's about to have a BM.
4. After that BM he LAUGHS. And LAUGHS. Meanwhile, we're all about to pass out.
5. He'd rather push Olivia in the stroller than ride in it himself.
6. The boy can EAT. Watermelon and meats are his favorites. Ice Cream and chocolate are good, too. And that's Olivia's fault, not mine. Just like Olivia liking coffee is Aunt Cindi's fault, not mine.
7. But nothing green so far passes the hallowed halls of his intestinal walls. He teased me this morning into thinking he might eat a bit of cucumber. Nah. Changed his mind.
8. He fights sleep. And fights it. And fights it.
9. He finds everything funny. If there is nothing funny around, he laughs anyway.
10. Did I mention he's called me Mama today? Twice? He also called Dale Baba (Chinese for Dad). Just once. :o)
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Mama twice? That took me three weeks to get!!!! As for the BM, he will get over thinking that BM's are funny...probably never. My boys still laugh at poop stuff. Aren't boys glorious? Aren't they wonderfully made? Love you all and am savoring every moment of your journey.
Posted by: Teresa on May 19, 2010 at 03:38 A.M.
*Remember what I prayed for?????? Well, obviously God heard my prayers for Olivia and Benjamin. Jim wanted me to remind you that he told you Ben would be a climber :) Of course he said Mama, he's smart enough to know who his mama is!
What size is he wearing in clothes and shoes just in case I find something he can't live without? Hugs and kisses, Cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 19, 2010 at 04:04 A.M.
*Croy Family!
Congratulations! Glad to hear that Benjamin is fitting in with your family wonderfully. Austin wants to know when he can run and play with Benjamin. I explained that you weren't even back in the U.S. yet. He said,"well what are they taking so long for"? Keep enjoying all your moments and memories you are building.
Safe Travels,
Dawn Pirke
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 06:16 A.M.
*sounds to me like benjamin and dillon need to get together - or maybe not :) i called dillon my ADHD baby b/c he never stopped until he crashed to sleep. i was rolling at your list. oh could i relate! so glad to hear benjamin is bonding so quickly. great news! hugs to you all.
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 19, 2010 at 01:40 P.M.
*How exciting and precious are the words "Mommy" and "daddy". We are certainly enjoying this journey with you. Thanks for letting us come along with you. Can't wait to meet Benjamin!
Posted by: Wilma on May 19, 2010 at 05:30 P.M.
*Congratulations! We are so happy for your family. We miss you Abigail.
Love,
Your classmates
Posted by: Chris Lynch on May 19, 2010 at 06:08 P.M.
*He called you momma? Twice? How awesome is that? Preston had a little pop up fire engine that he would hide in for his BM as well. (He would die if he knew I was typing this!) At least you get a little warning that way. What do you need when you get back? Let us know and we'll get it sent over! Hugs to all!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 19, 2010 at 06:14 P.M.
Delivered... then signed and sealed
May 18, 2010
Our first night with Benjamin went very well for the most part. He woke up crying at 3:00, looking around and seeminly not knowing where he was. I spoke to him and rubbed his back for a moment and he was back to sleep. Then at 4:00 he awoke again. After a moment or two he was back to sleep until 7:00. Not bad for a first night, I'd say.
Today was another busy busy day with lots of paperwork. First we went back to the Civil Affairs office to deliver paperwork we filled out yesterday afternoon. We were there for several hours due to the size of our group. The registration offical made a speech to all of us and called us up one by one for a photo with our families and our adoption certificate. We thought that was it. Nope. After keeping 15 little ones occupied and relatively our of trouble for two hours we loaded back up on the bus to go to the Notary for more paperwork. The room was very crowded as we have 15 families and many of them have travel companions and children in tow. After an hour of filling out more paperwork admid the crying or laughing babes and siblings we finally were able to walk back down the 6 flights of unairconditioned, cigarette smoke-filled stairway to the "fresh air" outside.
Benjamin was a trooper. He is just a very happy little boy. We found a few toy cars for him at the local Walmart and he loves to play with them and drive them all over us. His laugh is contagious and he has the most beautiful smile. Just wait until you see him. The pictures really do no justice.
Abigail and Olivia have been wonderful sisters so far, but the green-eyed monster is alive and well, living currently at the Zhengzhou Crown Plaza, room 320. But she's working on it. Tomorrow we're hoping to have some one-on-one time with her to reassure her that she's still our special girl whom we love more than ever when we see what a great big-sister she's turned out to be.
This afternoon I left Dale and all three little angels napping while I hopped a bus with many of the rest of our group to take a shopping trip to the Lotus Market. (Olivia and I had attempted to go to Walmart by taxi on Monday afternoon, but our driver didn't understand at first where I wanted to go and drove us 20 minutes across town. The local Walmart is about a 15 minute walk down the street and we would have walked it, but we didn't have time since I had to be back to the hotel for paperwork in an hour. When the driver pulled up at some remote market I pointed to the hotel card I had with me and asked her to take us back to the hotel. She turned around and took us to the Walmart I had originally asked for. But by then I just wanted to get back to the hotel so we wouldn't be late for the meeting. She refused to take us back! By then I had about 20 minutes to make it back to the hotel, but I was so turned around I didn't know which way that was. Livy and I started praying. A taxi appeared out of no where and we were able to get back just in time. A taxi ride in China is like Mr. Toad's wild ride anyway, but there was a point during this one when I actually began to wonder if we were being kidnapped and started planning mine and Livy's escape. No kidding!) Well, back to the Lotus Market...
It was quite an experience. Three floors of everything you can imagine for sale...and then some. I was overwhelmed trying to navigate my way around and find the small list of items I was searching for. I had decided to travel VERY light this trip and buy any baby items once I knew what Benjamin needed rather than overpack things we wouldn't need. Therefore, I didn't have any bottles, sippy cups, spoons, or toys, except for a ball, etc. During our past adoptions we've had time to go to the local market for staple items such as juice, water, snacks, baby food, etc. Not this time. So it was a relief to get to the store today to pick up these items, especially a sippy cup. Thank goodness the orphanage staff had so generously brought along diapers and wipes (no Ben's not potty-trained as we were first told. They were probably afraid that would be a deal-breaker :o) with him being so mischievous and all). In addition to baby snacks, sippy cups, etc. I found Crocs in Benjamin's size for under $3. They even have the Mickey Mouse cut-outs, which cost more at home. I went ahead and bought the next size up, too. He had fat little feet just like Olivia and they will be very forgiving shoes for him. When he's able to wear them, that is. Along with the baby supplies and photo albums came a pair of corrective shoes/braces. Not that he needs them to move around, mind you, and they certainly don't slow him down any. He's supposed to wear them during the day according to the staff and he knows just how to put them on and helped me get them fastened up. Another thing he has in common with Olivia: his head is rock-hard, and you WILL see stars when he head-butts you.
Well, it's time to hit the hay. We have a free day tomorrow so hopefully we'll be able to get out and sight-see on our own a bit. Several adoptive families have asked about Angel House. No, we will not be able to visit there or Pingdingshan SWI since they are too far away, at least 3 hours one way. I'm disappointed about that, but there's no way we can make that trip with Benjamin and I wouldn't want to go it alone. For me it's enough to see how well-cared for Benjamin is. I know he was in a great place.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Oh my, the pic of the little shoes made me tear up. Can't wait to see you all, I'll pass on the head butting part but am all about a high energy fun little boy. I'm sure you can release a big breath now that the Ts are all crossed. Hurry on back to the Tow! On second thought, enjoy your tourist time - this is, of course, Livy's first time to China! Hugs to all!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 18, 2010 at 08:04 A.M.
*Do not forget to skip next door to the Holiday Inn and try their bowl of noodles. It will transform your life! Benjamin is absolutely handsome as all get out. I am going to have great difficulty keeping my hands off him :-) Tell your girls that my girls are so jealous that they can't see straight. They want me to have a baby- a boy- so that they can have a little brother. Can you hear David's scream in China??? Love and miss you all...
Posted by: Teresa on May 18, 2010 at 10:20 A.M.
*We miss ya'll...fried chicken isn't the same without you!
We can't wait to see you all home with Benjamin.I'm trying to get my legs in shape to keep up after him :)
*Tell Dale to bring a bag of ice when he comes ! ha ha
I love ya favorite son-in-law !
*Tell Livi , Grandpa is still grumpy :) Look forward to seeing you all when you get home.
We love you ~ Momma, Daddy & Kevin
Posted by: Momma & Daddy on May 18, 2010 at 12:13 P.M.
*so much fun living vicarously thru you :) i love your posts and your pictures. thanks for sharing. benjamin is just adorable. so glad to hear he's doing so well. and the girls sound to be having normal reactions. brothers can be a pain. just ask deanna. but she loves them (most of the time).
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 18, 2010 at 06:24 P.M.
*He is so cute. I love the picture of all three asleep. You all make such a sweet family. Can't wait to have Abigail back in Sunday School. Tell her we missed her. Love to you all.
Posted by: Susan Evans on May 18, 2010 at 06:58 P.M.
*Carmen, remember when we ventured out on our own with Ava in a stroller? We tried to cross this crazy busy street, laughing hillariously from stress, as we watched the locals take it all in stride and walk right into the traffic. Thankfully, a local young woman took pity on us and guided us across the street. I will never forget that. Rule # 1: never verture out in a busy city in China without a guide at your side!!
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 11:02 A.M.
Our first night with Benjamin went very well for the most part. He woke up crying at 3:00, looking around and seeminly not knowing where he was. I spoke to him and rubbed his back for a moment and he was back to sleep. Then at 4:00 he awoke again. After a moment or two he was back to sleep until 7:00. Not bad for a first night, I'd say.
Today was another busy busy day with lots of paperwork. First we went back to the Civil Affairs office to deliver paperwork we filled out yesterday afternoon. We were there for several hours due to the size of our group. The registration offical made a speech to all of us and called us up one by one for a photo with our families and our adoption certificate. We thought that was it. Nope. After keeping 15 little ones occupied and relatively our of trouble for two hours we loaded back up on the bus to go to the Notary for more paperwork. The room was very crowded as we have 15 families and many of them have travel companions and children in tow. After an hour of filling out more paperwork admid the crying or laughing babes and siblings we finally were able to walk back down the 6 flights of unairconditioned, cigarette smoke-filled stairway to the "fresh air" outside.
Benjamin was a trooper. He is just a very happy little boy. We found a few toy cars for him at the local Walmart and he loves to play with them and drive them all over us. His laugh is contagious and he has the most beautiful smile. Just wait until you see him. The pictures really do no justice.
Abigail and Olivia have been wonderful sisters so far, but the green-eyed monster is alive and well, living currently at the Zhengzhou Crown Plaza, room 320. But she's working on it. Tomorrow we're hoping to have some one-on-one time with her to reassure her that she's still our special girl whom we love more than ever when we see what a great big-sister she's turned out to be.
This afternoon I left Dale and all three little angels napping while I hopped a bus with many of the rest of our group to take a shopping trip to the Lotus Market. (Olivia and I had attempted to go to Walmart by taxi on Monday afternoon, but our driver didn't understand at first where I wanted to go and drove us 20 minutes across town. The local Walmart is about a 15 minute walk down the street and we would have walked it, but we didn't have time since I had to be back to the hotel for paperwork in an hour. When the driver pulled up at some remote market I pointed to the hotel card I had with me and asked her to take us back to the hotel. She turned around and took us to the Walmart I had originally asked for. But by then I just wanted to get back to the hotel so we wouldn't be late for the meeting. She refused to take us back! By then I had about 20 minutes to make it back to the hotel, but I was so turned around I didn't know which way that was. Livy and I started praying. A taxi appeared out of no where and we were able to get back just in time. A taxi ride in China is like Mr. Toad's wild ride anyway, but there was a point during this one when I actually began to wonder if we were being kidnapped and started planning mine and Livy's escape. No kidding!) Well, back to the Lotus Market...
It was quite an experience. Three floors of everything you can imagine for sale...and then some. I was overwhelmed trying to navigate my way around and find the small list of items I was searching for. I had decided to travel VERY light this trip and buy any baby items once I knew what Benjamin needed rather than overpack things we wouldn't need. Therefore, I didn't have any bottles, sippy cups, spoons, or toys, except for a ball, etc. During our past adoptions we've had time to go to the local market for staple items such as juice, water, snacks, baby food, etc. Not this time. So it was a relief to get to the store today to pick up these items, especially a sippy cup. Thank goodness the orphanage staff had so generously brought along diapers and wipes (no Ben's not potty-trained as we were first told. They were probably afraid that would be a deal-breaker :o) with him being so mischievous and all). In addition to baby snacks, sippy cups, etc. I found Crocs in Benjamin's size for under $3. They even have the Mickey Mouse cut-outs, which cost more at home. I went ahead and bought the next size up, too. He had fat little feet just like Olivia and they will be very forgiving shoes for him. When he's able to wear them, that is. Along with the baby supplies and photo albums came a pair of corrective shoes/braces. Not that he needs them to move around, mind you, and they certainly don't slow him down any. He's supposed to wear them during the day according to the staff and he knows just how to put them on and helped me get them fastened up. Another thing he has in common with Olivia: his head is rock-hard, and you WILL see stars when he head-butts you.
Well, it's time to hit the hay. We have a free day tomorrow so hopefully we'll be able to get out and sight-see on our own a bit. Several adoptive families have asked about Angel House. No, we will not be able to visit there or Pingdingshan SWI since they are too far away, at least 3 hours one way. I'm disappointed about that, but there's no way we can make that trip with Benjamin and I wouldn't want to go it alone. For me it's enough to see how well-cared for Benjamin is. I know he was in a great place.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Oh my, the pic of the little shoes made me tear up. Can't wait to see you all, I'll pass on the head butting part but am all about a high energy fun little boy. I'm sure you can release a big breath now that the Ts are all crossed. Hurry on back to the Tow! On second thought, enjoy your tourist time - this is, of course, Livy's first time to China! Hugs to all!
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 18, 2010 at 08:04 A.M.
*Do not forget to skip next door to the Holiday Inn and try their bowl of noodles. It will transform your life! Benjamin is absolutely handsome as all get out. I am going to have great difficulty keeping my hands off him :-) Tell your girls that my girls are so jealous that they can't see straight. They want me to have a baby- a boy- so that they can have a little brother. Can you hear David's scream in China??? Love and miss you all...
Posted by: Teresa on May 18, 2010 at 10:20 A.M.
*We miss ya'll...fried chicken isn't the same without you!
We can't wait to see you all home with Benjamin.I'm trying to get my legs in shape to keep up after him :)
*Tell Dale to bring a bag of ice when he comes ! ha ha
I love ya favorite son-in-law !
*Tell Livi , Grandpa is still grumpy :) Look forward to seeing you all when you get home.
We love you ~ Momma, Daddy & Kevin
Posted by: Momma & Daddy on May 18, 2010 at 12:13 P.M.
*so much fun living vicarously thru you :) i love your posts and your pictures. thanks for sharing. benjamin is just adorable. so glad to hear he's doing so well. and the girls sound to be having normal reactions. brothers can be a pain. just ask deanna. but she loves them (most of the time).
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 18, 2010 at 06:24 P.M.
*He is so cute. I love the picture of all three asleep. You all make such a sweet family. Can't wait to have Abigail back in Sunday School. Tell her we missed her. Love to you all.
Posted by: Susan Evans on May 18, 2010 at 06:58 P.M.
*Carmen, remember when we ventured out on our own with Ava in a stroller? We tried to cross this crazy busy street, laughing hillariously from stress, as we watched the locals take it all in stride and walk right into the traffic. Thankfully, a local young woman took pity on us and guided us across the street. I will never forget that. Rule # 1: never verture out in a busy city in China without a guide at your side!!
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 11:02 A.M.
And now Ladies and Gentlemen...
May 17, 2010
The moment you've all been waiting for!
We got the prize! Well, everyone did, but let me tell you, our boy has PERSONALITY! The big moment: The orphanage director and officer arrived and I saw them coming up the steps of the Civil Affairs office. He was looking around all curious. Dale grabbed the camera to get ready when they walked in the open doorway. They walked straight to me. For some reason they could tell he was mine!
When they stopped in front of me he just looked at me with curiosity and I said, "Wu shi ni mama." (Chinese for "I am your mama." spelling butchered, I'm sure. I'm too tired to look it up and I can't remember how to spell it, but thank you Elisa Criden for teaching me that phrase nearly eight years ago). When I said that he smiled the biggest smile and reached out for me. I was so shocked! He never cried once. I believe they have been showing him our photo album we sent him and talking to him about us. He is very smart and ALL BOY! I think we're going to have to have a helmet made for him as soon as we get home. He has no fear of anything.
Abigail was the best little baby sitter while we were trying to sign paperwork amid the chaos that ensued. He is so fast though, that it's scary. And he's a climber. We literally cannot take our eyes off him. Not for fear that he will get into something, but with the outright knowledge that he WILL get into something. God Bless the nannies who have kept him alive all this time.
Benjamin was obviously loved and well cared for. He is chubby, was clean and smelled good when they handed him to me. Along with Benjamin came several bags: diapers, a change of clothes, two photo albums - one a scrap book with many pictures and comments, a letter from the director of Angel House in English requesting updates via email.
To the ladies at church who made the beautiful quilts, the nannies oohhed and ahhed over them and one read the inscription that Minqi translated and with tears in her eyes said, "Hallelujah." We couldn't communicate in words, but smiles and hugs are universal. Dale and I want to thank you for your beautiful labors of love and hope you know that your work is appreciated by the nannies at both Olivia's and Benjamin's orphanage. We left 10 of the quilts in Lin'An where Olivia began her life and brought the remaining 4 for Pingdingshan.
Well, I left Dale feeding Benjamin a bottle. We couldn't believe he still takes one, but it seems he's not going to sleep without it. Oh well. We can bond a little faster with it, anyway. I have so much more to say, but have to get back and assist with bedtime and laundry.
Love to everyone. Your messages are so special to us. We appreciate hearing from you and knowing that your prayers are with us. I'll try to post more pictures tomorrow.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*YAY! My eyes are full of tears imagining the moment.
A new journey has begun, what a lucky little boy, what a lucky family! Congrats Croy family!
Posted by: Mandy Seger on May 17, 2010 at 08:02 A.M.
Olivia, I think your brother is so cute. I want my daddy to have hair like that!
Lilly Seger
Posted by: Lilly S on May 17, 2010 at 08:11 A.M.
*Posted by: LIUXIN on May 17, 2010 at 09:39 A.M.
Congrats! That is so awesome! Looks like Dale has someone to go adventuring with. Give Ben and the girls a squeeze from the Haskins!
Posted by: David Haskin on May 17, 2010 at 09:40 A.M.
*He is absolutely precious !! Praise the LORD !
We know your heart is overflowing right now. Enjoy this
special time with your new boy !
Posted by: Minqi , Rhonda, Clayton and Emma on May 17, 2010 at 10:15 A.M.
*I am in tears! OMG! Carmen I do not have words to express what I am feeling a I read your post. I found pictures today at Angel House of your Benjamin and my Grace. Can't wait to get there and get here. You have encouraged me so much through this post. I can hardly wait to be in your shoes, living through you right now. It looked like he did not go to Pingdinshan SWI until a day or two until you got there is that right? Have you gotten to go to Angel House?
Posted by: Dawn Fisher on May 17, 2010 at 10:24 A.M.
*Glad to see you with Benjamin. Now we have another brother in the family. He can only speak Chinese right now and he will learn English soon. Hope he won't forget Chinese.=P
God bless you!
Posted by: Minqi's translating on May 17, 2010 at 10:46 A.M.
*Hi Carmen -
Our daughter is currently at Angel House and I echo Dawn's sentiments. It does my momma's heart good to hear how well cared for your little boy was, hoping (and feeling confident) that our Suhn is being given the same level of care. SO happy for your family!!!
Blessings,
Megan
Posted by: Megs on May 17, 2010 at 10:47 A.M.
*Yay!!! What a handsome son and brother you have! I echo the nannies' Hallelujah, but for your family! Looking forward to hearing more.
Love, Rebecca
Posted by: Rebecca on May 17, 2010 at 11:06 A.M.
*WooHoo!! He is so cute! Hurry up and bring him home so we can play with him. I know Ollie and Abigail are having a blast with him. Ollie finally has some competition!
I love and miss you all.
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 17, 2010 at 11:20 A.M.
*Oh! I am SO happy and excited for ALL of you!!! Handsome boy (beautiful family!). How wonderful and exciting for Benjamin to have heard your words..."I am your mama." in his known language. I know all of our hearts are full for this joyous occasion. Can't wait to meet your new addition!
Posted by: Betty Jo Phillips on May 17, 2010 at 11:25 A.M.
*Woop! Woop! Can't wait to meet Mr. Benjamin! And now I am inspired for my hair appointment tomorrow. Hugs to everyone!
Cindy
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 17, 2010 at 11:33 A.M.
*Can't even imagine how happy you are and how full all of your hearts are now that you are actually able to hug and squeeze him. He is absolutely adorable! I have no doubt he knew who you all were when he saw you. You all were just meant to be together. Miss you lots! HUrry home!!!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 17, 2010 at 11:58 A.M.
*Woohoo!!!! That is the same room we met Bekah in! Of course, he likes you and all so that is a bit different :-) So glad this day has come and can't wait to hold you all in my arms. Dale Croy is looking so handsome I might have to restrain myself...and we both know that would be a first! Blessings to you all as you grow into your new family and special prayers for good sleep and a sense of humor, two things it looks like you are going to need.
Posted by: Teresa on May 17, 2010 at 01:04 P.M.
*So thrilled for you! Can't wait to get him in the Preschool Department. Tell the girls Little Brothers are the best!! We are so excited for you!
Posted by: Jane A. on May 17, 2010 at 03:29 P.M.
*oh my! how precious! how adorable! i am enjoying your posts SO much!!! this one especially :) we couldn't be happier for you! may the rest of your trip go smoothly and you continue to feel prayed for. hugs and lots of love!
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 17, 2010 at 04:23 P.M.
*I am so excited! Love the pictures, love the stories! Can't believe what a cutie. Congrats and we love you all!
Posted by: Deana Sellers on May 17, 2010 at 05:44 P.M.
*YAY!!! Congrats!!! So happy for you guys!! Looks like ya'll are going to have your hands full with him. He's so cute!! Take care! Have fun and a safe trip home! Praying for you guys!
Love,
The Sosa's
Posted by: Keturah And Tony on May 18, 2010 at 03:53 A.M.
*I'm so happy right now, words can't truly express the joy I'm feeling. He is adorable and I can't wait to see all of you. You, Dale and the girls will now get to experience what Jeff and I have for many years. Boys are God's busy, adventureous and fearless little explorers. He makes them that way to become strong Godly men that will lead their families in His ways.
Take care and hugs and kisses to all.
Love,
Cousin Penny
Posted by: Penny Cook on May 18, 2010 at 05:58 A.M.
*CONGRATULATIONS!!! He's absolutely adorable. Welcome to the world of boys - hang on, it's going to be an adventure. I'm so excited for your family and the amazing blessings (all of them) that God has given you. Thank you for sharing your story and pictures. Have a blast getting to know your son and be safe on your travels. God Bless!
Posted by: Wendy on May 18, 2010 at 11:42 A.M.
*Croy Family!
Your story to receive Benjamin has moved me to tears. I'm sitting in my classroom this morning with tears rolling down my cheeks! This is one lucky little boy to have your family to call his very own! Thank you so much for allowing us to all come along on your adventures and journey to your son!
God Bless you all!
Pirke Family
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 05:46 A.M.
*Good Lord, has it been 8 years since I taught you my little bit of Mandarin? I'm so excited for all of you!! And I'm happy that he understood you. If I can remember, I'll post how to tell him to go to sleep. I was amazed when Zachary actually listened and understood that phrase when we were in China! Benjamin will pick up English quickly, and you all will have so much fun teaching him. I love your blog, and can't wait to hear more. Benjamin is adorable, and will be a blessing to your family. This is bringing back lots of memories
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 09:30 A.M.
The moment you've all been waiting for!
We got the prize! Well, everyone did, but let me tell you, our boy has PERSONALITY! The big moment: The orphanage director and officer arrived and I saw them coming up the steps of the Civil Affairs office. He was looking around all curious. Dale grabbed the camera to get ready when they walked in the open doorway. They walked straight to me. For some reason they could tell he was mine!
When they stopped in front of me he just looked at me with curiosity and I said, "Wu shi ni mama." (Chinese for "I am your mama." spelling butchered, I'm sure. I'm too tired to look it up and I can't remember how to spell it, but thank you Elisa Criden for teaching me that phrase nearly eight years ago). When I said that he smiled the biggest smile and reached out for me. I was so shocked! He never cried once. I believe they have been showing him our photo album we sent him and talking to him about us. He is very smart and ALL BOY! I think we're going to have to have a helmet made for him as soon as we get home. He has no fear of anything.
Abigail was the best little baby sitter while we were trying to sign paperwork amid the chaos that ensued. He is so fast though, that it's scary. And he's a climber. We literally cannot take our eyes off him. Not for fear that he will get into something, but with the outright knowledge that he WILL get into something. God Bless the nannies who have kept him alive all this time.
Benjamin was obviously loved and well cared for. He is chubby, was clean and smelled good when they handed him to me. Along with Benjamin came several bags: diapers, a change of clothes, two photo albums - one a scrap book with many pictures and comments, a letter from the director of Angel House in English requesting updates via email.
To the ladies at church who made the beautiful quilts, the nannies oohhed and ahhed over them and one read the inscription that Minqi translated and with tears in her eyes said, "Hallelujah." We couldn't communicate in words, but smiles and hugs are universal. Dale and I want to thank you for your beautiful labors of love and hope you know that your work is appreciated by the nannies at both Olivia's and Benjamin's orphanage. We left 10 of the quilts in Lin'An where Olivia began her life and brought the remaining 4 for Pingdingshan.
Well, I left Dale feeding Benjamin a bottle. We couldn't believe he still takes one, but it seems he's not going to sleep without it. Oh well. We can bond a little faster with it, anyway. I have so much more to say, but have to get back and assist with bedtime and laundry.
Love to everyone. Your messages are so special to us. We appreciate hearing from you and knowing that your prayers are with us. I'll try to post more pictures tomorrow.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*YAY! My eyes are full of tears imagining the moment.
A new journey has begun, what a lucky little boy, what a lucky family! Congrats Croy family!
Posted by: Mandy Seger on May 17, 2010 at 08:02 A.M.
Olivia, I think your brother is so cute. I want my daddy to have hair like that!
Lilly Seger
Posted by: Lilly S on May 17, 2010 at 08:11 A.M.
*Posted by: LIUXIN on May 17, 2010 at 09:39 A.M.
Congrats! That is so awesome! Looks like Dale has someone to go adventuring with. Give Ben and the girls a squeeze from the Haskins!
Posted by: David Haskin on May 17, 2010 at 09:40 A.M.
*He is absolutely precious !! Praise the LORD !
We know your heart is overflowing right now. Enjoy this
special time with your new boy !
Posted by: Minqi , Rhonda, Clayton and Emma on May 17, 2010 at 10:15 A.M.
*I am in tears! OMG! Carmen I do not have words to express what I am feeling a I read your post. I found pictures today at Angel House of your Benjamin and my Grace. Can't wait to get there and get here. You have encouraged me so much through this post. I can hardly wait to be in your shoes, living through you right now. It looked like he did not go to Pingdinshan SWI until a day or two until you got there is that right? Have you gotten to go to Angel House?
Posted by: Dawn Fisher on May 17, 2010 at 10:24 A.M.
*Glad to see you with Benjamin. Now we have another brother in the family. He can only speak Chinese right now and he will learn English soon. Hope he won't forget Chinese.=P
God bless you!
Posted by: Minqi's translating on May 17, 2010 at 10:46 A.M.
*Hi Carmen -
Our daughter is currently at Angel House and I echo Dawn's sentiments. It does my momma's heart good to hear how well cared for your little boy was, hoping (and feeling confident) that our Suhn is being given the same level of care. SO happy for your family!!!
Blessings,
Megan
Posted by: Megs on May 17, 2010 at 10:47 A.M.
*Yay!!! What a handsome son and brother you have! I echo the nannies' Hallelujah, but for your family! Looking forward to hearing more.
Love, Rebecca
Posted by: Rebecca on May 17, 2010 at 11:06 A.M.
*WooHoo!! He is so cute! Hurry up and bring him home so we can play with him. I know Ollie and Abigail are having a blast with him. Ollie finally has some competition!
I love and miss you all.
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 17, 2010 at 11:20 A.M.
*Oh! I am SO happy and excited for ALL of you!!! Handsome boy (beautiful family!). How wonderful and exciting for Benjamin to have heard your words..."I am your mama." in his known language. I know all of our hearts are full for this joyous occasion. Can't wait to meet your new addition!
Posted by: Betty Jo Phillips on May 17, 2010 at 11:25 A.M.
*Woop! Woop! Can't wait to meet Mr. Benjamin! And now I am inspired for my hair appointment tomorrow. Hugs to everyone!
Cindy
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 17, 2010 at 11:33 A.M.
*Can't even imagine how happy you are and how full all of your hearts are now that you are actually able to hug and squeeze him. He is absolutely adorable! I have no doubt he knew who you all were when he saw you. You all were just meant to be together. Miss you lots! HUrry home!!!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 17, 2010 at 11:58 A.M.
*Woohoo!!!! That is the same room we met Bekah in! Of course, he likes you and all so that is a bit different :-) So glad this day has come and can't wait to hold you all in my arms. Dale Croy is looking so handsome I might have to restrain myself...and we both know that would be a first! Blessings to you all as you grow into your new family and special prayers for good sleep and a sense of humor, two things it looks like you are going to need.
Posted by: Teresa on May 17, 2010 at 01:04 P.M.
*So thrilled for you! Can't wait to get him in the Preschool Department. Tell the girls Little Brothers are the best!! We are so excited for you!
Posted by: Jane A. on May 17, 2010 at 03:29 P.M.
*oh my! how precious! how adorable! i am enjoying your posts SO much!!! this one especially :) we couldn't be happier for you! may the rest of your trip go smoothly and you continue to feel prayed for. hugs and lots of love!
Posted by: Shelle M. on May 17, 2010 at 04:23 P.M.
*I am so excited! Love the pictures, love the stories! Can't believe what a cutie. Congrats and we love you all!
Posted by: Deana Sellers on May 17, 2010 at 05:44 P.M.
*YAY!!! Congrats!!! So happy for you guys!! Looks like ya'll are going to have your hands full with him. He's so cute!! Take care! Have fun and a safe trip home! Praying for you guys!
Love,
The Sosa's
Posted by: Keturah And Tony on May 18, 2010 at 03:53 A.M.
*I'm so happy right now, words can't truly express the joy I'm feeling. He is adorable and I can't wait to see all of you. You, Dale and the girls will now get to experience what Jeff and I have for many years. Boys are God's busy, adventureous and fearless little explorers. He makes them that way to become strong Godly men that will lead their families in His ways.
Take care and hugs and kisses to all.
Love,
Cousin Penny
Posted by: Penny Cook on May 18, 2010 at 05:58 A.M.
*CONGRATULATIONS!!! He's absolutely adorable. Welcome to the world of boys - hang on, it's going to be an adventure. I'm so excited for your family and the amazing blessings (all of them) that God has given you. Thank you for sharing your story and pictures. Have a blast getting to know your son and be safe on your travels. God Bless!
Posted by: Wendy on May 18, 2010 at 11:42 A.M.
*Croy Family!
Your story to receive Benjamin has moved me to tears. I'm sitting in my classroom this morning with tears rolling down my cheeks! This is one lucky little boy to have your family to call his very own! Thank you so much for allowing us to all come along on your adventures and journey to your son!
God Bless you all!
Pirke Family
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 05:46 A.M.
*Good Lord, has it been 8 years since I taught you my little bit of Mandarin? I'm so excited for all of you!! And I'm happy that he understood you. If I can remember, I'll post how to tell him to go to sleep. I was amazed when Zachary actually listened and understood that phrase when we were in China! Benjamin will pick up English quickly, and you all will have so much fun teaching him. I love your blog, and can't wait to hear more. Benjamin is adorable, and will be a blessing to your family. This is bringing back lots of memories
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 09:30 A.M.
The Great Wall, Acrobats Again, and the Olympic Avenue
May 15, 2010
There really are no words to accurately describe the Great Wall. There are also no pictures to do it justice. When you're standing there you can't believe you're actually there and then once you climb it you can't believe you accomplished the feat. The Wall is a very difficult, treacherous climb. The steps are uneven and at differing heights. The hand rail is too low for comfort and you realize while you're clinging to it for dear life that millions of dirty hands before you clung to it, too. (Little germ-a-phobe confession for ya). What amazed me the most about the Great Wall this time was the fact that Abigail and Olivia fairly flew up and could have gone much further if time had permitted. They were AMAZING climbers, or as the Chinese refer to those who climb the Wall, HEROES. The only thing more difficult than climbing UP is walking back DOWN without FALLING DOWN the Wall. Again, Abigail and Olivia went down so quickly that I know my mouth was agape most of the time. Well, I want also panting for air like a fish washed up on shore.
We left the Wall and stopped for lunch before heading back into Beijing to see another Acrobat performance. We had decided to make this stop again since Abigail and Olivia had enjoyed the first one so much. Turns out we went to a different show than the first and they enjoyed it as well. It has more frills and fluff, but Abigail liked the "off-Broadway" version better.
The day was getting long, but we had one more stop to make...the Bird Nest and the Water Cube. How could we come to Beijing and not stop by for a few minutes. It's amazing what they built for the sake of the Olympic games, but there were tons of Chinese tourists there to see it, too.
After a long day of touring we finally made it back to our hotel a little before 8 p.m. and then walked around the block with some new friends, Tracy and Jeremiah to the local Pizza Hut. It was GREAT!
Tomorrow (Sunday), around noon we leave for Zhengzhou, Benjamin's province. We are supposed to receive him on Monday. It won't be long, now. Then again, the last day of waiting is usually the longest. We'll try to let you know as soon as we can after we have him with us.
PS. Minqi, Olivia has a new victim for a few days: George, our CCAI local rep in Beijing. She thinks he's quite cute.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Just thinking that you will actually have little Benjamin in a matter of days makes me get all teary eyed! I hope the last day of waiting isn't too long for you and I hope your trip continues to be wonderful. Hurry up and bring that little boy home!!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 15, 2010 at 12:59 P.M.
*The Great Wall sounds much more fun than the great return walk to the hotel! Thanks for the updates - they're great! Can't wait to see trio of siblings pics.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 15, 2010 at 02:26 P.M.
*Might I remind you that Ian participated in that acrobatic show and we have photos to prove it? Glad you skipped the squatties there because they were other-worldly and I have a very strong tummy. Ian also climbed the Great Wall three times and David and I panted up three steps and down again, thinking we were on the verge of death. Maybe the third time for us will be the charm????
Posted by: Teresa on May 15, 2010 at 02:29 P.M.
*What a "GREAT" experience! I would love to give it a go one day. We're hanging on in prayer with you! Monday's going to be an awesome day, and as I write I know your Monday is much closer than mine. Thank you for documenting it all. Benjamin will cherish them one day, but we love them now.
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 16, 2010 at 05:07 A.M.
*Dale & Carmen, we are so excited. We are taking this journey with you. I know Abigail and Olivia are having the time ofm their lives. Thank you for letting us share in this adventure with you Can't wait to see Benjamin. Praying for you.
Posted by: wilma on May 16, 2010 at 01:17 P.M.
*So the pizza there is better? = p
can't wait to see those two 'sheroes'
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 17, 2010 at 03:30 A.M.
*We miss you and we love you.
We can't wait to see you and meet Benjamin! :)
We miss seeing you in the library.
Have fun and come home soon.
Posted by: Ms. Holmes' Class on May 17, 2010 at 06:06 A.M.
*Hello Croy Family! I am so enjoying reading about your journey and wishing we had been able to go to Beijing...looks awesome. Am anxiously awaiting with great anticipation to read about and see Benjamin joining your family. I am so excited for all of you!!!
Posted by: Rebecca on May 17, 2010 at 06:37 A.M.
*I know that any minute pictures of Benjamin will be posted. You DO realize we are all hanging on your every word waiting for you to throw us a bone, dont you?
POST PICTURES SOON!!!
I love you all and miss you so much.
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 17, 2010 at 07:01 A.M.
*Hi Croy family! We are so excited to find your blog and have enjoyed reading about your adventures so far. Can't wait to read about your first days with Benjamin! Praying for safe journeys for our friends! Tell Olivia Mr.Marc is gonna love her pictures on the motorcycle!
Mandy
To Oliva and Abigail, the sqautty pottys are so funny and we like the Great Wall of China pictures. The food looks funny. Oliva is very brave for riding on that motorcycle! Your baby brother is gonna be cute. My mommy showed me how far away China is. Your friend, Lilly
Posted by: The Seger family on May 17, 2010 at 07:37 A.M.
There really are no words to accurately describe the Great Wall. There are also no pictures to do it justice. When you're standing there you can't believe you're actually there and then once you climb it you can't believe you accomplished the feat. The Wall is a very difficult, treacherous climb. The steps are uneven and at differing heights. The hand rail is too low for comfort and you realize while you're clinging to it for dear life that millions of dirty hands before you clung to it, too. (Little germ-a-phobe confession for ya). What amazed me the most about the Great Wall this time was the fact that Abigail and Olivia fairly flew up and could have gone much further if time had permitted. They were AMAZING climbers, or as the Chinese refer to those who climb the Wall, HEROES. The only thing more difficult than climbing UP is walking back DOWN without FALLING DOWN the Wall. Again, Abigail and Olivia went down so quickly that I know my mouth was agape most of the time. Well, I want also panting for air like a fish washed up on shore.
We left the Wall and stopped for lunch before heading back into Beijing to see another Acrobat performance. We had decided to make this stop again since Abigail and Olivia had enjoyed the first one so much. Turns out we went to a different show than the first and they enjoyed it as well. It has more frills and fluff, but Abigail liked the "off-Broadway" version better.
The day was getting long, but we had one more stop to make...the Bird Nest and the Water Cube. How could we come to Beijing and not stop by for a few minutes. It's amazing what they built for the sake of the Olympic games, but there were tons of Chinese tourists there to see it, too.
After a long day of touring we finally made it back to our hotel a little before 8 p.m. and then walked around the block with some new friends, Tracy and Jeremiah to the local Pizza Hut. It was GREAT!
Tomorrow (Sunday), around noon we leave for Zhengzhou, Benjamin's province. We are supposed to receive him on Monday. It won't be long, now. Then again, the last day of waiting is usually the longest. We'll try to let you know as soon as we can after we have him with us.
PS. Minqi, Olivia has a new victim for a few days: George, our CCAI local rep in Beijing. She thinks he's quite cute.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*Just thinking that you will actually have little Benjamin in a matter of days makes me get all teary eyed! I hope the last day of waiting isn't too long for you and I hope your trip continues to be wonderful. Hurry up and bring that little boy home!!
Posted by: Jennifer on May 15, 2010 at 12:59 P.M.
*The Great Wall sounds much more fun than the great return walk to the hotel! Thanks for the updates - they're great! Can't wait to see trio of siblings pics.
Posted by: Cynthia Kuhlman on May 15, 2010 at 02:26 P.M.
*Might I remind you that Ian participated in that acrobatic show and we have photos to prove it? Glad you skipped the squatties there because they were other-worldly and I have a very strong tummy. Ian also climbed the Great Wall three times and David and I panted up three steps and down again, thinking we were on the verge of death. Maybe the third time for us will be the charm????
Posted by: Teresa on May 15, 2010 at 02:29 P.M.
*What a "GREAT" experience! I would love to give it a go one day. We're hanging on in prayer with you! Monday's going to be an awesome day, and as I write I know your Monday is much closer than mine. Thank you for documenting it all. Benjamin will cherish them one day, but we love them now.
Posted by: Janice Durrance on May 16, 2010 at 05:07 A.M.
*Dale & Carmen, we are so excited. We are taking this journey with you. I know Abigail and Olivia are having the time ofm their lives. Thank you for letting us share in this adventure with you Can't wait to see Benjamin. Praying for you.
Posted by: wilma on May 16, 2010 at 01:17 P.M.
*So the pizza there is better? = p
can't wait to see those two 'sheroes'
Posted by: Minqi and Rhoda on May 17, 2010 at 03:30 A.M.
*We miss you and we love you.
We can't wait to see you and meet Benjamin! :)
We miss seeing you in the library.
Have fun and come home soon.
Posted by: Ms. Holmes' Class on May 17, 2010 at 06:06 A.M.
*Hello Croy Family! I am so enjoying reading about your journey and wishing we had been able to go to Beijing...looks awesome. Am anxiously awaiting with great anticipation to read about and see Benjamin joining your family. I am so excited for all of you!!!
Posted by: Rebecca on May 17, 2010 at 06:37 A.M.
*I know that any minute pictures of Benjamin will be posted. You DO realize we are all hanging on your every word waiting for you to throw us a bone, dont you?
POST PICTURES SOON!!!
I love you all and miss you so much.
cindi
Posted by: Aunt Cindi on May 17, 2010 at 07:01 A.M.
*Hi Croy family! We are so excited to find your blog and have enjoyed reading about your adventures so far. Can't wait to read about your first days with Benjamin! Praying for safe journeys for our friends! Tell Olivia Mr.Marc is gonna love her pictures on the motorcycle!
Mandy
To Oliva and Abigail, the sqautty pottys are so funny and we like the Great Wall of China pictures. The food looks funny. Oliva is very brave for riding on that motorcycle! Your baby brother is gonna be cute. My mommy showed me how far away China is. Your friend, Lilly
Posted by: The Seger family on May 17, 2010 at 07:37 A.M.
The Beijing Zoo and Wanfanjing Street
May 14, 2010
Taxi! TAXI!
Today we lunched at McD's across the street from our hotel. We love Chinese food, but after a week away form home the girls were asking for something a bit more like home, and we were happy to oblige. Next we took our lives in our hands and walked down the street to find a taxi to take us to the Beijing Zoo. We walked a few blocks when finally we were successful and it was only a few minutes ride to the zoo. Good thing, since there are no seat belts on the Chinese Rollercoaster we call a taxi.
There were several very interesting animals, including a golden pheasant, monkeys and red pandas, which look like huge red raccoons more than pandas. After a while we finally came to the giant panda house. They were roly-poly fat and so funny to watch. One literally fell over on his back while eating and didn't bother to get back up, just laying there to strip leaves from the bamboo stalk he was eating from. While we were standing watching the pandas a little boy with his family came "squeaking by" in his split pants. Some of you don't know, but squeaky shoes are common in China and encourage babies to start walking, and I think also help parents keep up with their children. :o) Split pants are missing the crotch, which encourages potty training. You could hear the wheels turing in Abigail's head. Olivia didn't seem to notice at the time, except fromt he back. She laughed and pointed at his little backside as he went by.
After leaving the zoo we took the subway to Wanfanjing Street. (Thanks to David Haskin for the link so we would recognize it when we found it!) Now just a word about the subway...we don't DO subways where we come from. (Cindi, that feeling you get thinking about airplanes I get thinking about subways). I don't understand them. I don't like being rushed and crowded, bumped into, yada, yada, yada. I could feel my airway constrict as we purchased our ticket and then attempted to read our route in Chinese. I mean, it's bad enough to navigate the subway in Atlanta or San Francisco where ENGLISH is pretty much the norm, but in Beijing...nah. Thankfully there were some very nice and helpful people to directed us with the use of the note we had gotten from George, our CCAI guide before leaving the hotel. After a few transfers we found our street. But the street looked nothing like the link David had sent. That's when we met up with a couple form Pennsylvania on the street who were in Beijing for the marathon they had been training for for two years. They directed us on down the street and paydirt! Scorpions on a stick, anyone? All types of traditional foods were being prepared for the asking. After Dale's bout with TD the week before though, he was getting nauseous just at the smell and site, so we didn't linger long in the food section. Next came the hucksters, and they were vicious. There was no looking without being haggled. We didn't stay long as the rain came out of no where. That's where the real fun began.
As we were exiting the alley we came to a bronze display of children playing. One was of a little boy in split pants. Well don't you know, Abigail had to take the 360 tour. Yep, she walked all the way around him, the realization dawning on her face. Then she started laughing and said, "So that's how you can stand up to pee, Dad!" Yeah, it was a big moment. She was going to find out once we got Benjamin. Now she won't be as shocked. Olivia found all of this totally disgusting.
What we found totally disgusting was the fact that we were not able to hail a taxi once we were ready to return to our hotel. We walked for several miles in many circles until we couldn't find our way back to the subway station. Just when Dale and Abigail were about to throw themselves on the street and have a tantrum (did I mention that Olivia is the traveler I would choose in future?) I found a different subway station. Again with the assistance of kind strangers we found our way back to our hotel. We were totally, completely exhausted. Couldn't be more exhausted if we tried...but then, that was before we visited the Great Wall. Stay tuned.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*We love Wangfujing Street! David is so jealous that you got to see it without us. We all need to go together soon and sample some scorpion on a stick. I had the candied crab apples and they were some kinda good. So glad you are posting. We were going through withdrawal...
Posted by: Teresa on May 15, 2010 at 02:25 P.M.
*Croy Family!
This is the part of your trip my boys have been really waiting to hear about. They were disgusted by the crouchless pants but understood how that might be easier if you are potty training. Marcus wants to get on the next flight to China so he can visit the market with the scorpions on a stick. He thinks that is too cool!
Continue enjoying yourselves!
Pirke Family
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 05:33 A.M.
*Carmen, I am just now reading all your journal entries, in order I might add. Can't wait until I get to the entry where you get Benjamin. Of course, I should be working, but this is more fun :-) Steve, the girls, and I stayed in a hotel by Wanfanjing Street. We didn't dare sample anything, but yes, the scorpions on a stick did look yummy.
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 09:17 A.M.
Taxi! TAXI!
Today we lunched at McD's across the street from our hotel. We love Chinese food, but after a week away form home the girls were asking for something a bit more like home, and we were happy to oblige. Next we took our lives in our hands and walked down the street to find a taxi to take us to the Beijing Zoo. We walked a few blocks when finally we were successful and it was only a few minutes ride to the zoo. Good thing, since there are no seat belts on the Chinese Rollercoaster we call a taxi.
There were several very interesting animals, including a golden pheasant, monkeys and red pandas, which look like huge red raccoons more than pandas. After a while we finally came to the giant panda house. They were roly-poly fat and so funny to watch. One literally fell over on his back while eating and didn't bother to get back up, just laying there to strip leaves from the bamboo stalk he was eating from. While we were standing watching the pandas a little boy with his family came "squeaking by" in his split pants. Some of you don't know, but squeaky shoes are common in China and encourage babies to start walking, and I think also help parents keep up with their children. :o) Split pants are missing the crotch, which encourages potty training. You could hear the wheels turing in Abigail's head. Olivia didn't seem to notice at the time, except fromt he back. She laughed and pointed at his little backside as he went by.
After leaving the zoo we took the subway to Wanfanjing Street. (Thanks to David Haskin for the link so we would recognize it when we found it!) Now just a word about the subway...we don't DO subways where we come from. (Cindi, that feeling you get thinking about airplanes I get thinking about subways). I don't understand them. I don't like being rushed and crowded, bumped into, yada, yada, yada. I could feel my airway constrict as we purchased our ticket and then attempted to read our route in Chinese. I mean, it's bad enough to navigate the subway in Atlanta or San Francisco where ENGLISH is pretty much the norm, but in Beijing...nah. Thankfully there were some very nice and helpful people to directed us with the use of the note we had gotten from George, our CCAI guide before leaving the hotel. After a few transfers we found our street. But the street looked nothing like the link David had sent. That's when we met up with a couple form Pennsylvania on the street who were in Beijing for the marathon they had been training for for two years. They directed us on down the street and paydirt! Scorpions on a stick, anyone? All types of traditional foods were being prepared for the asking. After Dale's bout with TD the week before though, he was getting nauseous just at the smell and site, so we didn't linger long in the food section. Next came the hucksters, and they were vicious. There was no looking without being haggled. We didn't stay long as the rain came out of no where. That's where the real fun began.
As we were exiting the alley we came to a bronze display of children playing. One was of a little boy in split pants. Well don't you know, Abigail had to take the 360 tour. Yep, she walked all the way around him, the realization dawning on her face. Then she started laughing and said, "So that's how you can stand up to pee, Dad!" Yeah, it was a big moment. She was going to find out once we got Benjamin. Now she won't be as shocked. Olivia found all of this totally disgusting.
What we found totally disgusting was the fact that we were not able to hail a taxi once we were ready to return to our hotel. We walked for several miles in many circles until we couldn't find our way back to the subway station. Just when Dale and Abigail were about to throw themselves on the street and have a tantrum (did I mention that Olivia is the traveler I would choose in future?) I found a different subway station. Again with the assistance of kind strangers we found our way back to our hotel. We were totally, completely exhausted. Couldn't be more exhausted if we tried...but then, that was before we visited the Great Wall. Stay tuned.
Comments From Friends and Family:
*We love Wangfujing Street! David is so jealous that you got to see it without us. We all need to go together soon and sample some scorpion on a stick. I had the candied crab apples and they were some kinda good. So glad you are posting. We were going through withdrawal...
Posted by: Teresa on May 15, 2010 at 02:25 P.M.
*Croy Family!
This is the part of your trip my boys have been really waiting to hear about. They were disgusted by the crouchless pants but understood how that might be easier if you are potty training. Marcus wants to get on the next flight to China so he can visit the market with the scorpions on a stick. He thinks that is too cool!
Continue enjoying yourselves!
Pirke Family
Posted by: Dawn Pirke on May 19, 2010 at 05:33 A.M.
*Carmen, I am just now reading all your journal entries, in order I might add. Can't wait until I get to the entry where you get Benjamin. Of course, I should be working, but this is more fun :-) Steve, the girls, and I stayed in a hotel by Wanfanjing Street. We didn't dare sample anything, but yes, the scorpions on a stick did look yummy.
Posted by: Elisa Criden on May 27, 2010 at 09:17 A.M.
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